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After leaving an ex-boyfriend over 15 years ago, I didn't have anywhere to go so I moved back to my childhood home. As the years went on I noticed the decline in my parents. I so badly wanted to move back out on my own but I felt that I couldn't leave them alone. I saw the decline and reached out to my siblings and told them that I needed help I can't do this all on my own. I was told that we would all sit down and talk about it. WELL that day has come and gone several times.I have already had two heart attacks and have one blockage that needs to be corrected and I don't feel that they take my health issues into consideration at all. I have found myself to get very angry and argumentative at the drop of a dime and they think that I blow things out of control. I have read up on caregiver burnout and have told them they need to do the same. I know that it what I am going through.They are really quick to bring up something that they may have read or call me immediately if they feel that I have done something wrong or not the way that they would have done it. Which in turn causes a lot of the arguments.I am presently looking for somewhere to move as I need to get myself back I lost myself through this process and I don't put myself first I always take the back seat. I don't know what to do and i am actually afraid to move out because I don't think that my parents will be attended to. Has anyone gone through this or is going through this and what advice or help can you give me. I just feel lost and alone all of the time and I joined a gym over a year ago figuring that it would be my time for me but its sad to say that I never went once because when I did leave the house my phone would ring that my dad had an accident in the bathroom and I had to get home right away to clean it up. So now I was told that I have to make sure that my parents have the care they need before I even think of moving. WHY JUST ME??? Lastly sorry to tell my whole life story but with my Mom she is very argumentative and when I speak to her politely she snaps back at me and calls me an FN BEEP and get the F out of my house. IM LOSING MYSELF MORE AND MORE EVERYDAY.....
Arrange to move out . When you have an apartment ( or whatever your next home will be ) lined up, let your parents and siblings know you are moving out . If you are given resistance/refusal by any of them and no reasonable plans are made to have adequate care set up for your parents , then just after you move out , you call APS to report your parents as vulnerable adults . Since it seems they need 24 hour care , a facility may be the best way to go unless another family member is willing to care for them .
Care for your parents should be paid by your parents , using their funds , and/or selling their house to pay for a facility . If funds run out , Medicaid can pay for SNF care facility .
If you or one of your siblings has POA , and your parents are not competent according to the doctor , POA can place a parent in a care facility . If no one has POA your parents can be assigned a state appointed guardian by the court ..
It is not your siblings responsibility to take care of your parents. If you want changes to happen, you have to make them happen. Get an apartment and move out. I really hope you haven’t been unemployed and doing all this caregiving unpaid for the last 15 years.
Sorry you’re in this situation, Adusza. Sounds like your own health has been dangerously neglected in taking care of your parents.
To clarify, what do you want your siblings to do, and have you told them directly?
Seems like they aren’t interested in the all-consuming caregiving that’s going on now, and I can’t really blame them (though that’s no excuse for not helping you figure out how to help your parents without losing your own life).
Could your parents sell their home and go into assisted living? Or pay for aides to come in? Can they arrange this themselves or is there cognitive decline?
Obviously, something needs to change and I certainly hope it does soon, for your sake.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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Since it seems they need 24 hour care , a facility may be the best way to go unless another family member is willing to care for them .
Care for your parents should be paid by your parents , using their funds , and/or selling their house to pay for a facility . If funds run out , Medicaid can pay for SNF care facility .
If you or one of your siblings has POA , and your parents are not competent according to the doctor , POA can place a parent in a care facility . If no one has POA your parents can be assigned a state appointed guardian by the court ..
To clarify, what do you want your siblings to do, and have you told them directly?
Seems like they aren’t interested in the all-consuming caregiving that’s going on now, and I can’t really blame them (though that’s no excuse for not helping you figure out how to help your parents without losing your own life).
Could your parents sell their home and go into assisted living? Or pay for aides to come in? Can they arrange this themselves or is there cognitive decline?
Obviously, something needs to change and I certainly hope it does soon, for your sake.
Save yourself.
Move out.
In whatever order suits you.