My sister & brother-in-law acquired POAs in Oct/Nov 2017, mum died in early December 2018; dad predeceased her by almost eight years.
The last time we had any communication with my mother was on 12th July, 2017; despite my wife and I solely caring for my late parents in their twilight years.
My sister has assumed sole executorship, she wants the sum of money my mother willingly gave me redistributed into the estate.
What are my options?
Best wishes to all concerned, particularly with concurrent Covid-19.
Provide sis a bill on the estate for the care you provided. And make the amount comparable to what is charged through an agency.
Your sister cannot just "assume" sole executorship, but it may be too late to object.
If no Will then she would have to go to Probate and be assigned Administrator. She can't assume Executorship. As Adminstrator she has to take on similar responsibilities of an Executor. She has to make sure debts are paid. The difference is as Executor the estate is distributed how the person who passed wanted it. As Administrator, that decision is made by Probate according to who are the closest living relatives.
There was a reason Mom gave you the money. Maybe because you were there for ur parents. In my opinion, anything given before death, has nothing to do with Moms estate after her death. What if Mom had given it to sister before her passing? Different story, huh.
If Mom wrote a will and says nothing about previous money given, and she is leaving the balance of her estate to be split between her two children then thats how its done.
First, if there is a Will being probated, its now public so u can see it. I would ask sister if she has a Short Certificate showing that she is authorized as an Executor or Administrator to handle Moms finances. Probate will tell u who is Executor or Administrator. Give her nothing until u talk to Probate or get a consult from a lawyer. But, I don't think u need to unless...it was a loan.