Over the past 3 or 4 years my relationship with my siblings have become strained. I no longer visit with my mother due to all the lies she is being told. I chose to stay away for my health and try to give her some peace from siblings putting me under a microscope and telling her lies about me.
Your brother, father of the talkative niece, is absolutely right. Time for him to grasp the nettle, put his foot down, and nip all this nonsense in the bud - plus any other metaphors you'd care to add to the mix. This could be one occasion when the old-fashioned preference for putting boys in charge works in everyone's favour, for a change. Is there a sort of Alpha Brother whom pretty much everyone (but especially your mother) trusts and respects? Because I nominate him to sort the will out once and for all. With the aid of a reputable elder attorney, of course. Not one from your sister's firm, by the way, in case that isn't incredibly obvious.
More worrying is your semi-estrangement from your mother, and the evil that has been worked there. I'm sorry for you, but I'm sorrier for your mother because she is helpless and can't, for example, come on to the forum for support. Keep calling her, won't you? I really hope things improve.
It's just a thought: ugly sisters aside, is it possible that dementia or a similar mental decline is distorting your mother's image of you?
However, that is hardly the point. The glaring issue in your post is that… sorry, I can hardly believe I'm reading your headline right… wtf??? What do you mean, your 'siblings are changing your 93 year old mother's will…'
Your siblings can't change a single comma in your mother's will. Only your mother can change her will.
If you believe that your siblings are putting pressure on your mother to change her will, and at your mother's age pretty much any pressure is 'undue' pressure, then that's what you need to address. Where are you getting your information?
Sad.
I heard through the grapevine this time she changed the will. I have a brother that tries to stay neutral in the sibling fighting. His daughter told my other brother that her dad wants to take my mom to a lawyer and change the will to what it was when my father died 10 years ago. He doesn't agree with what they are doing but really doesn't take much action.
I am not estranged from the whole family just the few sisters that have taken over my mothers life. I still talk to my mother on the phone about once a week. at most she seems afraid of me or at times mad at me. Thank you for your comments.
What meals were you taking her??? Eye of newt stew or something?!?!
You must feel sick at heart.
What is definitely no good is for the Silly Sisters to be to-ing and fro-ing with their DIY wills. Whoever's idea it is for all of that to be going on, whether it's them or your mother or a bit of both, it's daft and irresponsible.
The brother with the daughter, would you consider him up to throwing his weight around in a good cause?
Whatever else you decide to do, I think the moral of the story is that communication is key. What opened the growing rift between you and your sisters?
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