my sister her husband and grown adult nephew who has Asperger's moved in with my dad a little over a year ago I guess they built a house in the back I thought it was for them but it ended up being that they put him in the back and out of the house that him and my mother worked there entire lives for and now she is passed on and I guess the P of a transfers to my brother-in-law who I don't really trust cuz he didn't even tell me my sister was in the hospital for three whole days and has gotten in the way of some care between my dad and me and my sister I don't know what to do what can I do I'm his only surviving daughter.some of his behavior in my mind was kind of red flaggish and he's trying to keep me away as much as possible there are no receipts for the house and my dad's house there are no extra copies of the plan for this house that was built or where the money went and also I've been told by my sister that they closed my dad's bank account and my dad even said they closed it and put his money in with their money into their account what can I do, during the building of that house they threw away all kinds of things of my mother's without offering anything to me to see if there is something there that I'd want there's also Furniture of mine still in the front house I just don't know what I can do about any of this and then my sister said that my dad during the time with them have wrote me out of a will that him and my mother created a will and a trust which I have no idea if it's true or not who knows I don't know what to doI had cared forI had cared for
First of all, I am assuming your husband is the POA for his wife. That has nothing to do with being the POA of our father. Who IS the POA of your father, and does your father have dementia? It sounds to me as though you are the only and closest living relative of your father. Have you seen him and spoken to him? What does he say to you.
It is time now for you to contact and visit with your father.
I would visit with the widower of your sister as well.
If your sister was dying in the hospital and you were not notified then there was already a family estrangement here that was existing.l
You cannot examine the records of this home on your own other than to look up title and deeds (as public records you should be able to do that.
Quite honestly with your father living in the back of a home built on his property, you have some reason be worried for his safety ongoing.
Get an attorney.