My mom is 89 years old and fell in memory care and fractured her femur. The doctor told us today she needs more care and will have to go to SNF permanently. We were told the facility she usually goes to will not accept her as a patient and wouldn't tell us the reason. Is this legal, and shouldn't they have to tell you the reason? We don't know if it was our mom or us kids since we are very involved in her care. Its going to make it very difficult for us to visit her if we have to place her far away.
Who have you yourself spoken to about this? Where is your mother now?
What's that "usually goes to" all about? Is there some history with this NH that we need to know about to understand the situation?
Last question (promise!) - who has formal, legal responsibility for making decisions for your mother?
If you didn't speak to the SNF yourself: perhaps the person who enquired didn't think to ask why the SNF was saying no, just took no for an answer, and then made it sound as though the SNF was refusing to say.
Pure speculation here, but it could be that she needs to be in a SNF permanently. Who's going to pay for that after medicare stops paying? If they know that she will be there permanently, they might not want to take on so much unknown.
As for not telling you why, from their point of view, there's no advantage for them to. Doing so doesn't benefit them at all. Best case scenario, it opens them up to liability. For the same reason, no one should ever tell anyone why they aren't hiring them. It amazes me that so many people do. That's how to hire 101. Never tell someone why your aren't going to hire them. It just opens you up to a possible lawsuit. The less said the better.
I spoke with owner of SNF. They wont take my mom for rehab because she only gets a week and if we can't find a SNF which we won't, 2 year waiting list everywhere in our area Northern Calif, they will have to keep her on rehab side till bed comes available and they will lose money. We tried to bring her back to memory care facility which we already paid $6,000.oo for month of February with home nurse and PT and they said the only way they will take her back if she is on hospice. They encourage all there patients to go on hospice, so they wont have to do showers and resident gets more care. We have no where to take her so she is going back to memory care where she fell because in state of Calif. you cant have full rail on bed and there isn't any way to keep her safe. She will not get PT, and if she doesn't get PT she will be bedridden. So the best we can do at this time is have hospice keep her pain free and know she is to weak to get out of bed, so no risk of falling.