I live with my parents and own a daycare at my home. For the most part my parents( both in their 70's) are still very independant, but when I'll or hurt... I put on my " parent care hat". For the last 5 weeks I am caring for my mom. She fell and hurt head and has rub muscle injury. She has been on a weight restriction of 5 lbs. She has been moody (anger, frustration, sadness) mostly directed towards me.
So I have been running my daycare, cleaning house, making meals, planning a Christmas party for my daycare, decorating the house.
My mom helped very limited, making her more withdraw. With her back pain comes rubbing her back with aspercream 3 times a day.
My dad supports me by mostly letting me handle things.
Yesterday was the kids party. She kinda enjoyed herself.
My mom became emotional last night when we put presents under the tree (she had not really been able to go shopping sense she fell)
I helped my mom with her gifts this morning. I received things I wanted (from my dad (he added mom's name to card) my vaccu, mine gave up right after Thanksgiving.
Today she tried to help with making lunch, but her back pain interfered. So I made lunch, my dad tried to help clean up. But I had it under control. So he sat and talked with mom.
Cleaning, baking, cooking it seams like any other day.
For me it is a somewhat normal day, spent a few days away with my kids. Came back home today, with an illness, back to work tomorrow.
As your parents age and decline then your roll of caring for them will increase if this is what is going to happen. They could if finances are there move into Assisted Living where others will help care for them.
As long as they are in relatively good health now it might be time to discuss what they want to be done as things happen.
POA for health and Finances.
How is the house titled? If something happens would the house have to be sold, if so where would you go?
Is the house set up so they can be mobile if either is in a wheelchair or is using a walker?