My sister just directed me to care blazers on YouTube... One podcast was stage. of dimentia..
I think dad is in mild on 3 step stage and 2 on the 7 step stage... In the comment I read another person posting it it's her temper that puts her on the scale same with me... The temper i think is not being able to say what he wants to say when he wants to say it. He communicates great generally but when he wants to say directly and someone doesn't understand that is when I think his temper flairs.?
Is that where you are?
Hold together. Things will change.
It's impossible to plan for every future scenario, but maybe be as 'ready to roll' as you can.
Be ready to speak up to Dad's Doctor if he becomes ill or he stops coping.
You and your sister should step back and let him figure it out or not. When someone is propped up, it is really hard to identify the deficiencies in their executive function. Stepping back will help you see what he is actually capable of doing.
His anger may be triggered because he feels like you guys are helicoptering and he doesn't want that.
You matter too and you should not accept abusive behavior from him.
Please don't let unneeded criticism run you off. Nobody else cares about your grammar or extra periods. Sheesh, like you don't already have enough on your plate.
Your Dad needs a good physical with Labs to make sure its nothing physical causing his problems. Then you need a referral to a Neurologist if Dad is on a Medicare Advantage plan. Straight Medicare u should not need one. The Neurologist will run test ruling out a stroke. He will also be able to tell you what type of Dementia Dad has. Anger is usually associated with Frontal Lobe Dementia or Lewy Body Dementia. The frontal lobe is where all the emotions are. Until you know what type it is you will not know what meds will help.
Dads anger is caused because he knows there is something wrong but cannot grasp what. There are meds to help but need to first find out what type of Dementia.
It really doesn't matter what stage he is in. They seem to overlap. My Mom started out her short-term memory and reasoning went. Then being able to use her cordless phone and TV remote. It always surprises me when some members say that a parent can still use their cell phone in later stages. Can't remember if it Frontal Lobe or Lewy body that some members say that they do not show the usual signs of Dementia and have the ability to mask it.
You need to learn to go with the flow. He will have good days and bad. My problem was the unpredictability of the disease. I like order. I can't stand chaos.
Your POA. Does it read Immediate or you need a doctor or two to sign off that Dad is incompetent to handle his affairs? If Immediate, you don't need a doctor to sign off.
I hope you are still with us. This can be a helpful group. Like any forum, you take the good with the bad. Take a big breath, I know this all is very overwhelming especially dealing with health professionals and staff. Before you post, just reread what you posted and make sure it can be clearly understood. Its really hard writing on a forum and making sure you don't ruffle any feathers.
wasn't found for 3 days spent 2 weeks in hospital then 4 weeks in nursing home nursing home said dimentia too advanced for him to live alone morning before he Fell. Sister cut his hair he seemed fine..One doc signed his POA that he was no longer competent.., 2nd doc refused to sign.. after released from nursing home he had to see all his docs again for post hospitalization follow up.... When he saw his blood doctor he said dad had been septic..
I know sepsis causes confusion.i my 8 year cousin had sepsis and she was very confused.
.but am.8 year old doesn't have to worry about being diagnosed with dimentia a 78 year old man does.
He was taken to hospital by ambulance he refused an MRI he didn't like the noise they had to be satisfied with a cat scan looked ok but an MRI might have caught a mini.stroke.. we looked at going to als he refused.. now my sister's and I divide the week so one of us sees him every day.
He would not cooperate with any tests to determine demrntia.
POA not active.
Hes calling the shots..
He does have a diagnosis of dimentia I only know because I saw his after appointment notes
.that listed dimentia as diagnosis.
Doc refused to discuss with family apparently dimentia. Not bad enough to override his ...
Hippa. Rights... I think. It takes time to determine what dimentia.. he does have ,, 6 month appointments now.
His PCP also refused to sign.
His home. Is well taken care of financies perfect...hygiene also. Good.. he. Is isolating. And losing. His temper alot
He is no. Longer as confused as he was in. Nursing home
We Took dl away and disabled ca until he saw his PCP. PCP says he can still drive Nursing home had him. In speech therapy. He. May be confusing words?
And his temper is much worse... Lots yelling.. he was social now. Isolating. Quit his job as organizer and financial book keeper. Said 78.was time to quit
he said he quit for His health.
Lile to yell alot. I think. A speech. Issue can't say what he wants.
But he can't tell us if that's why he yelling
Long history of not being good with internet communication. Not my thing.
Text isn't my thing either
Oh well those the breaks