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If we are having discussion she will read the tv out loud or the cereal box. She stated we are jealous of her because my dad loves her more. We have had a few things of our childhood stored in his workshop she went through everything and sold or gave away to her sisters. One of her sisters has passed, dad's wife took all of her personal possessions away from her telling her she was just going to die so they needed to be cleaned away to avoid work after she died. Now the 2nd sister lives with my dad and her. She yells at her worse than a dog. Outrageous disrespect. She will not say hello if we come by only if my dad is present then she makes an extreme phony entrance. Where should I go for help?

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You say she moved in 2 months after Mom died then next sentence she is his wife. Is there a legal marriage?

Can you get Dad out of the house? You and him go out to lunch alone? If she complains tell her Dad and daughter time.

You realize this woman is sick. I would keep a watch even at arms length. She must leave the house. If u find Dad is being abused call APS.
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She sounds like the wicked west of the west! I’m so sorry you are dealing with this.

You can’t change this situation. Do yourself a favor and walk away from it.

I hope you have many peaceful days ahead of you. You will find peace if you let go of toxic relationships.

It isn’t your responsibility to ‘fix’ it. It’s their responsibility and they don’t seem interested.
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If you're looking to change the choices and behaviors of people in their late 80's...sorry. He was in a rush to remarry and this is what he got. Again, sorry. If I were in your shoes I'd extricate my emotions from this situation as there is only going to be pain and anxiety and anger in the future if you stay. Your father's first obligation is to his wife, not to you. He was a full-grown adult when he got married to her. You do not need to be his caregiver just because he wants you to. You should not plan on it as long as he is still married. Unless you really enjoy conflict and drama. Which, maybe you do. Also, I'd disabuse myself of any expectations of any inheritance. Doing this will be very freeing! He doesn't control you any more. Should you feel bad for your dad? No. He can get a divorce at any time if this woman is such a holy terror. But he's not. AND he keeps calling you into the middle. And you keep going voluntarily. Why? Dysfunction. Co-dependancy. Maybe the hope of an inheritance. You're the only one who can stop the madness by not engaging either of them. You asked where you can go for help and the answer is: therapy.
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