He went into a coma , he died from hypoglycemic brain damage. because she let him go back to sleep after medics brought him out of it first time. we dont know how long he was without oxygen and sugar to his brain because they went back to sleep. hes not a diabetic. and this isnt the first time its happemed . about a year or two ago he had a seizure because he took her metformin. which at that time my stepbrothers wife was the one setting his pills up for him.
The question is, was this a mistake? Are we sure that it was StepMom who gave the give, or did Dad take it himself, by mistake?
In my mind, if SM had intended to kill him she sure could have picked a more reliable way. And if that was her intention, why call 911?
But basically all we know for certain is that the OP has lost her father and is hurting right now. If she thinks there might have been deliberate foul play, she should go to the police.
The fact that he had a seizure before taking metformin when sil was fixing the meds has nothing to do with the med. The entire situation sounds fishy. I suggest you get all the facts straight before accusing one or the other of inappropriate care.
We really need to know if your Step-Mom has any dementia herself and maybe she mixed up the pills accidentally.... or if she might had dropped the pill unknowing on the rug and your Dad saw it and swallowed it.
We also need to hear from you about "motive". Why would your Step-Mom do that, if in fact she actually did this to your Dad?
And why didn't the EMT's take your Dad to the hospital after getting him out of a coma? You Dad wouldn't have been in clear enough mind to say no or to sign a refusal paper presented by the EMT's.
My youngest daughter died under very questionable circumstances
What I finally did after getting the autopsy report & going over it with SEVERAL QUALIFIED PHYSICIANS, who all agreed that the initial autopsy showed no reason for her death, was to let it go....her body was dead & nothing would change that. I am also in the medial profession. Who we believe was involved with her death will have a BIGGER POWER to answer to than me.
Becky, we need more information. Such as how old was your father and what health issues did he have? Did he have memory issues? How old was your stepmom and what health issues did she have besides type 2 diabetes? Did she have memory issues?
What solid proof do you have that your stepmom did this? Photos, her saying she did this, etc? Another question, why would your stepmom want to do this?
Pills are easy to mix up especially if they are the same color and shape to other pills.
If it makes you feel better, though, ask the police.
After the medics treated him, was he taken to an ER?
It would help if you could provide more on each of these incidents so the details can be described more fully.
Is there any question that his wife gave him the wrong med intentionally?
Accidents happen. One day many years ago I took my pills out of my purse and knew they weren't mine. I called home. "Have you already taken your pills today, Honey? Well be assured you aren't going to get pregnant today!" Neither of us were taking anything that would have seriously hurt the other, and we took some of the same supplements, so no harm done this time, but it was sure a warning! Even people who are normally very careful can make a mistake.
Was this an sad and tragic mistake? Or something more sinister?
Medics got him out of a coma but simply left him home? Did they inform your dad and his wife that he shouldn't go back to sleep for x hours? What is your dad's wife's health like? Should she have been able to stay awake and keep him awake? Something seems odd about the paramedic's role here.
This entire situation sounds most unfortunate. If you feel this was deliberate and if you have any evidence, then you should take this to the police.
But if his wife made a dreadful mistake (and the EMTs perhaps also made a mistake), then I'm not sure what purpose would be served by pursuing this. I would imagine that this mistake will haunt her the rest of her life as it is.
Again, condolences on this sad loss.