Here’s the abridged version. My dad was married to my mom for 53 years before she passed away, shortly thereafter my dad started a date and eventually married a woman who estranged my dad from the rest of the family. When Covid hit she passed away he then sold the family house to my sister and went to go live in a senior living community where he found wife number three who seemed completely opposite of number two however she thinks that my dad‘s money became hers when he started to make renovations to her place And does not want to put in her well that he has a life estate if she were to go first we understand that he can do whatever he wants to do with his money however, if he were to outlive her, we don’t have the money to put him in a assisted living facility, and her son could essentially benefit from all of us and kick him to the curb. Need more support on this has anybody gone through this before?
Your father was competent to marry, apparently? Even though he was in a facility?
You seem to have taken no action when this marriage was spoken of, then accomplished? So he is now legally married to wife number three.
His assets, such as they are, will pass to this wife in many states if he dies intestate (without a will). In other states they will be divided between spouse and children. YOu may wish to consult an attorney about that. Or check laws of your state.
I found your post quite confusing, mostly for lack of punctuation, which is difficult for this 82 year old to decipher.
As I understand it:
Dad has no will.
Dad has monetary assets only having sold his wife.
Wife owns a home that is hers on title; Dad has no home.
Dad is helping wife to remodel or keep up her home.
JoAnn is correct. This is now about a will.
Geaton is correct. This is also about competency.
Simple as that and the laws of your state.
I hope you, Dad and new wife can get it all ironed out together, and wish you all the very best of luck.
Your Dad needs to make a Will. He then distributes his money the way he wants. He can leave her nothing. He should have kept his income separate from hers. Putting one of his kids on the acct and making his kids beneficiaries to the acct. Maybe a consultation with an elder lawyer should be done.
Is anyone is PoA?
Knowing whether Dad has a PoA will be important to suggestions given to you.
Do not assume the your Dad does not have cognitive impairment. By time family members see regularly occurring "odd" or inappropriate (out of character) behaviors/decisions, the elder is already close to or in the moderate stage.
More info would be helpful.