I know it's been a long time since my last post to this community but I wanted to give a status update on my FIL. My sister in law came from up north & stayed with us for a while & took FIL with her. We now feel safe in our own home, we are praying & hoping that the stay will become permanent. He has traumatized the entire family, even his own 3 kids. I still don't understand how DIL was talked into taking him as she has ignored him for the last 8 years. FIL doesn't like me because I don't smoke or drink & I'm invisible to him. We do not have the best relationship. I apparently have Leprosy. He avoids all contact with me & the kids. He only speaks with his son, a house full of people & we are not good enough to talk to. I don't miss him, there's no more piss to clean up from behind the toilet since he left.
As to whether or not he ever enters your home again, if it is YOUR home, that is up to you entirely.
Good news. Hope it lasts for you!
So glad for you.