The new stress; What to do when caregiving instantly stops after 8yrs?

Yes yes my mom was on in home hospice for nearly 30 months quite a long time she did not die from infections or anything she just took dementia s to the Limit and she weighed only 60 lb and to see her decline that way it was very heart-wrenching. And she died last week the 6th of December she was taken to the hospice house I was told that if she remained in her the house I would be her nurse until her last breath and that I would have to administer the meds that she might need which they could do at the hospice house anyways she was there for 10 days without water or urine output. 20 months ago I had three stents put in my heart and if it wasn't for hospice watching my mom for respite I could not have went and then three months ago I had three more stents put in for a total of 6 stents in the. Of less than 20 months so yes caregiving is brutal and don't let anybody tell you that it isn't
Now to now to my worthless older siblings when dad passed away 8 years ago my brother's realized that I was the POA for both health and Financial they refuse to help me with Mom my oldest siblings wife says no one wants to help you because all all the estate should have been put in Probate when my dad passed away but all along they would say they did not want anything they were just being nosey but my mom always was silent with my brothers when they asked about financial things she would just say none of your business as my dad would say yes I am the youngest I had a closer relationship with my parents I appreciate it things they did a lot more than my siblings did and I always always there to help my parents no matter what my dad was 93 1/2 when he died I was living out of state and and just left my house and came to help but he passed away two months later. My brothers came to my dad's funeral but left basically the next day or early morning and there it was me and my mom both all alone the love of her life for 70 years just passed away she didn't drive a car and my brother that live nearby was sucking her dry as an ATM and of course when I became the power of attorney that all stopped. And I became the bad guy. My mom lived a long time and she still had her senses about her so she did a trust on her current house leaving the sole beneficiary and of course my brothers did not know this my mom did not want to tell them because they would not come visit but they never were going to come visit anyways so the story can go on and on and on but basically my mom passed away and when Mom passes away the true character of my siblings came out . i am grieving both of my parents now...i did exactly what my parents wanted..i am proud. I got a card from hospice caregivers said " you are truly one of kind in caring for your mom"....another "you are the son and caregiver every parent hopes for"
My sibs now want to take to court for decisions my parents made..i took care of my parents for more than 15 yrs ..even when they had minor surgerys ..it was never my sibs ..they were too busy "working"..what about my work ?yours is more important than mine ?
They just knew they didn't have to take care of my parents that I would regardless and they would try to reap the benefit of my hard work and dedication and love and compassion to my parents.. now I sit at home remembering that would mom was here I had a hundred things that I could be doing now that she's gone I can't think of one. I am just so broken I don't know where to start hear from now

Lot of lot of people wonder why my mom live so long with hospice being here for nearly thirty months and the truth of the matter is when she started sundowning and making her noises instead of Remeron I found it a lollipops Dum Dum sucker with take away the sundowning symptoms and as it progressed it kept her swallowing muscles intact and all of her muscles were gone at the time of her death she was contracted severely however she could still swallow and use a straw up until maybe a week or two before she passed away she was getting boost and ensures instead of just pureed food. The lollipops were amazing so much so that Dum Dums Corporation Spangler they sent her 60 lb of lollipops one time and if anybody would like to see a video how that works with my mom I have a short video on my phone showing how the lollipops helps her and swallowing and keeping her swallowing muscles good

I was typing my response when my phone rang so didn't see this response until I came back.

So sorry about ur brother/s. Do u have a cell, then put it on "Do not disturb". You should have options. Only friends ring thru, only contacts, or none. I set mine for none at night. I am not an early riser, my friend is. If I don't set it to "none" I can hear the ding.

You can take brother out of contacts and he won't ring thru.

I would do everything between u and brother thru the lawyer. Document as much as u can. How much Mom brought in. How much u brought in and approx where the money went. Don't need to be exact but maybe the last 10 months if thats the reason for the foreclosure.

My SIL always had these Big ideas. But, I was the one expected to carry them out. I didn't want to. Not because I couldn't afford to carry them out but because it was assumed I could. And not that I wasn't reimbursed but it was a longtime coming.