I agreed to move in with a friend to care for her , she has MS. Im just learning about the disorder, she is a kind friend that Ive known for about a month. First of all what to expect from a female with MS, she is mid 40's? and she takes a really long time to get ready but seems to forget that. I pick her up at ten to leave we end up leaving at 12noon. How do I tell her she is imposing on my time to do other things? She also has allowed me to stay in her place rent free, however I work and go to school and cant be there for her 24/7. What are your suggestions will this living arrangement work or not?
Find out exactly what kind of caregiving she needs and how often she needs it and then figure out if you're going to be able to provide that. Since you've only known her a month and already you're living in her house rent free in exchange for caregiving I wonder if you've considered what it takes to be someone's caregiver. You work and are in school and those are important priorities. You may not have the time it requires to care for someone else. When someone has an illness like MS or when someone is elderly they often can't just get up and get going like most of us can. It's a process that can take hours and that's not unusual. Since you live there and are her caregiver can you help her get ready in the morning?
It's not uncommon for people to agree to be a caregiver and then once in realize that they've bitten off more than they can chew. You obviously care about this lady and wanted to help her out but it's OK to reconsider. The people we care for usually become our first priority (often to the detriment of ourselves) because they are so needy physically and emotionally. You have to work and you have to finish school. You probably want some time to yourself as well so that places your friend at #4 on your priority list.
Opting out is always better than going on out of a sense of duty or obligation. If you do that you will only come to resent her and make yourself miserable. But if you made a deal with her and you're living there rent-free you need to either give her the care she needs in exchange for rent or move out.
To answer your specific question re telling her she's imposing on your time to do other things, tell her to call you when she's ready to go. If she sets an exact time, call her an hour before to see if she'll be ready. And then tell her to call you when she's 15 minutes out . . . or however long it'll take you to get there. I'd imagine, with MS, some days are much better/much worse than others. It may be that you'll have to hang relatively loose when it comes to taking her places.