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No, it doesn't. And bad behavior may be good enough reason to get her out of your home, but it isn't good enough reason to attempt to place her against her will. POA for medical doesn't allow you to place people. That would be a general POA and a diagnosis of incompetency in the elder you are POA for, or guardianship or conservatorship. Is this person related to you? Does this person live with you? Is this person diagnosed with dementia, and incompetent in her own care? Do you have general POA or guardianship? You may need the advice of an elder law attorney for your questions.
Put yourself in her place ...how would you feel to have all your rights to be stripped from you and thrown out like a piece of trash! You are talking about a human being! Not an old shoe! You have no idea how bad some of the places are out there. The neglect and abuse is horrible!
You can use the POA if she is not mentally competent to make decisions for herself. Get her evaluated by her doctor for mental competency. If the family doctor can not make this decision, ask for referrals to neurology and psychiatry to get evaluations, treatments, and a ruling on mental competency. If she is mentally competent, then explain consequences for problematic behaviors. I suggest reading any of the "boundary books" by Townsend and Cloud to help with the process.
Yes. It is a difficult situation for a family member to handle. Are you part of the family?
Your question is legal. Contact an attorney.
However, please note that ...
It isn't 'bad behavior.' It it (99.99%) likely a form of dementia. Dementia is caused by the changes in the brain and a person (mostly) cannot 'help it.'
They are often fearful, confused, trying to hold on to whatever independence they have / had / think they have. This doesn't mean its easy to be on the receiving end.
While I - and many of us - understand and experience(d) 'BAD BEHAVIOR,' (more than we ever wanted to and hope to never experience again...) please consider when you react to this behavior that you also consider / include compassion. . . When you see a person through compassionate eyes, it helps deal with the emotions associated with being on the receiving end of what you call 'bad behavior.'
See the person through their eyes and inside their head and heart.
Have her assessed by her medical professional.
Between a medical assessment and professional legal advice, you likely can make a decision.
Personally, I support you to do what is in your best interest(s). If you cannot handle it, best to make other arrangements. Otherwise, it will drain you in every way and the quality of your life will be severely diminished - and if that happens, it is not good for all concerned.
It likely isn't a good situation now. Thank you for asking us for information and support.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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POA for medical doesn't allow you to place people. That would be a general POA and a diagnosis of incompetency in the elder you are POA for, or guardianship or conservatorship.
Is this person related to you? Does this person live with you? Is this person diagnosed with dementia, and incompetent in her own care? Do you have general POA or guardianship?
You may need the advice of an elder law attorney for your questions.
Behaviour is communication.
Maybe there is a gap between her care needs & what your household can offer?
Put yourself in her place ...how would you feel to have all your rights to be stripped from you and thrown out like a piece of trash! You are talking about a human being! Not an old shoe! You have no idea how bad some of the places are out there. The neglect and abuse is horrible!
Have a little compassion!
Are you part of the family?
Your question is legal. Contact an attorney.
However, please note that ...
It isn't 'bad behavior.' It it (99.99%) likely a form of dementia.
Dementia is caused by the changes in the brain and a person (mostly) cannot 'help it.'
They are often fearful, confused, trying to hold on to whatever independence they have / had / think they have. This doesn't mean its easy to be on the receiving end.
While I - and many of us - understand and experience(d) 'BAD BEHAVIOR,' (more than we ever wanted to and hope to never experience again...) please consider when you react to this behavior that you also consider / include compassion. . . When you see a person through compassionate eyes, it helps deal with the emotions associated with being on the receiving end of what you call 'bad behavior.'
See the person through their eyes and inside their head and heart.
Have her assessed by her medical professional.
Between a medical assessment and professional legal advice, you likely can make a decision.
Personally, I support you to do what is in your best interest(s).
If you cannot handle it, best to make other arrangements.
Otherwise, it will drain you in every way and the quality of your life will be severely diminished - and if that happens, it is not good for all concerned.
It likely isn't a good situation now. Thank you for asking us for information and support.
Gena / Touch Matters
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