Just a P.S. to my new post.
Do I call the police ? Hedie Death by Cop. I know that. Do I lock myself in a room and let him get it all out about how he feels or drive away just what. Can I have some experiences of combative, mean, and nasty Dementia patients and what did you do ? Thank you
Tara, posted the following on the other thread from today too.
Tara, so he is bad again. He was ok for awhile? Are guns still in the house? Is he an alcoholic? Is that the elephant in the room nobody is talking about. I was just at a presentation this morning where they talked about dementia associated with alcoholism. It is nearly impossible to treat effectively. One of the caregivers there talked about how she let her husband have a beer when they went to dinner with friends just a few nights ago. Because with friends she did not want to embarass her husband by telling him no to the beer. She has done this before and suffers the consequences for many days following the beer consumption. His behaviors change drastically!
I will tell you again that YOU need to get out of there, drive away call 911, tell them what is going on warn them about guns in the house. And get away! Let the pros deal with getting him into the hospital for a geriatric psych assessment. I do not want to hear about the tragic story unfolding right in front of you because you are afraid to get the help you need. Yes it is embarassing, but remember it is the disease that is making him act this way to say nothing about possible interaction between the beers and seroquel!
I think that trying to anticipate when the bomb will go off is very risky. I don't see how things would work out well, since he is stronger than you. Scheming about ways to stay alive from day to day is not healthy. I'm not sure what you envision his progression to look like. I would make a plan for his care and follow up with it. Not all family members are able to care for a dementia patient in the home when they are violent and threatening.