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Mom has cancer. Does anyone have experience with an end-of-life rally?

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There are many stories of people having a rally toward the end of their life where they are able to say and do things that astonish their friends, family and caregivers. This happened to my mother - despite having been mostly immobile and not speaking for the previous year and a half she suddenly began to talk and move her head and arms, when I came for my daily visit one of the ladies at the nursing home told me she was "talking up a storm"! This remarkable rally lasted 2 or 3 days before she lapsed into the active dying stage.
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It's when the person dying wakes up like nothing is wrong and it freaks you out. They are good. Want to chat hang eat try. My dad went through it. Its false. It's the awakening before the end. That was hardest for me. I am here if you need anything. Hospice is well versed in these things. Regardless just take the time to say goodbye in your way.
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My daughter passed on 2013 of Ovarian cancer. She had been in the hospital for approx. 3 weeks. She wasn't eating, drinking or able to walk. She slept most of the time. One day she woke up and was talking, said she wanted to go for a ride in her wheel chair into the hallway. I had to call the nurse to get her unhooked from all her IV's. When the nurse got her unhooked she told the nurse to sit in the wheel chair because she wanted her to rest and my daughter wanted to walk. My daughter pushed the nurse around the whole 3rd floor, the nurse waived at patients as we passed by and my daughter was laughing and having fun pushing the nurse around. Everyone was amazed that she could do this, because of her condition before, a few days later, my daughter passed. It was amazing to watch how she rallied like that.
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Bonniewelbaum Jan 2019
Nice story thank you for sharing. I’m sorry about your daughters passing.
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The rally is very end of life. Often, a person who is declining a lot and likely just days before death will have a period of increased zest and energy for a short window (maybe up to a day) and surprise family because the person suddenly seems more upbeat. Often this is followed by more end of life symptoms... beginning the active dying phase. It doesn’t happen to everyone but is not uncommon.
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my husband died of cancer, he had been in bed and had no food for 2 weeks, one day he said he wanted to sit outside, we brought him out, he ate a dish of ice cream and talked a lot, when he got tired he went back to bed, went downhill and died 2 days later, so yes he did have an end of life rally.
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Rallying is a last hurrah, if you will. The elder may be surprisingly "better," though it may be short term only.
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Yep. It's the body's last hurrah before it expires and is quite common in terminal patients, usually occurring two to four days before death.
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"The rally before the finally". A brief period of heightened alertness, awareness and energy a few days or a few hours before passing.
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my ex girlfriends mom had this. (The mom and dad both died of cancer within weeks of each other in their mid sixties, very hard on my ex of course.)

Anyway, the mom was going downhill, they thought she would die soon. My ex called me at work one day and said her mom was somehow, in her hopeful mind at least, miraculously getting much better, was alert, very talkative (more than she ever was in fact) so I went there to visit and sure enough she seemed like she was never sick. That was on a Friday. She died the following Wednesday. We learned this is very common.
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We had a neighbor who was diagnosed late with stomach cancer. What they did, a few weeks before he past, was getting the word out of having an open house type party. Sounds strange, but it went Very well. Family and friends from around the country came. It was held over a few days within a 3 to 4 hours a day.
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