Mom was living with me and my family for 9mons to say the least, it just didn't work out. She was in a nursing rehab facility for 5 weeks and then she was released and she wanted go visit my aunt for 2 weeks so we took her to visit her. While she was in rehab I had helped her apply for low income apartment's and hat time she was at my aunts house, I got a call from a manager of a disabled apartment saying she was going to have a 1 bedroom apartment available about the 2nd week of Dec. After her visit with my aunt we brought her back and rented her a motel room for her until the apartment would come available. Well...... it is still not open yet and we are running out of money for the motel room. Which is $459.a week. I have called the manager of the apartment but she says the maintenance man has some work still in process to do. It has been about 5 weeks. I am at my wit's end, I don't have the resources neither does mom to keep paying for the room. She refuses to be put in a nursing home she is still competent. I don't know there is anyone or any resources out there that can help. Does anyone have suggestions or know what I should say to the manager of the apartment?
"...she is still competent"
Really? Are you sure? Because it seems others are having to orbit around her to help manage where she lives, how she gets there, etc. Also, she is 100% unrealistic about her situation, which may be a symptom of cognitive impairment (also loss of empathy for others: she doesn't care how much her neediness is stressing out others).
Please leave her in the motel and report her to APS as a vulnerable adult. Tell them she isn't accepting logical and reasonable solutions, isn't accepting the reality of her situation, and is running out of money (and you are not her caregiver, no one is). Then you and everyone else steps completely away and allows social services to deal with her.
The more you insert yourself, the longer it takes for an appropriate solution by the county to be put into place.
I am flat out of suggestions. I know you have all of the information by now for your area on what to try to do; I just don't know if everything can be fixed here.
I know you must feel very helpless in all this.
I wish I had answers.
I wish you good luck in this New Year with all that's been on the family plate in all of this.