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My MIL was one of those people who was 90, when she was 45. She acted old, talked "old" felt "old" and acted like she was on death's door ---well, I guess long before I came into the picture.
Some people just are that way! My MIL refuses to engage in any kind of activitiems has ONE friend, never wants to be with any of the family expect my DIL'S. She's acted old and crabby since forever. She got whiplash about 40 years ago and the dr said she had the "neck of an 80 yo". When she did turn 80, my DH said "hey, you're the same age as your neck now!" She was not amused.
I have been surprised to find that aging brings some sucky moments, I have arthritis, and everything hurts, but sheesh, I have hands! I can't remember everything, but that means I am forgetting bad stuff too. I find myself to be more forgiving, more patient, partly due to just being tired. I have plenty of time to listen to my grandkids ramble on and on and I am highly amused by them. We finally have money to "play with" and I DO!
You can look at it any way you want, but NOBODY gets younger. I'd like a nickel for every time my MIL looked at me and said I wasn't acting my age. Exactly how DOES a 61 yo act? Can I NOT jump on the trampoline if I want to?
I love that at age 88 she is still telling me to act my age.
Nope, never gonna happen. I tell my MIL, "You're not getting younger, neither is anybody else, you're not that special!" and go on about my life.
At one company I worked for, one of the Receptionists was in her 80's. Once in awhile she would get something mixed up, but she would reply that being in her 80's she was allowed to do that !! LOL
Agree with FF getting old is no fun. That doesn't mean you can't enjoy it. Think of all the wonderful people who help out feeble old ladies. M''aam can I help you with that? Young lady that looks too heavy for you? Would you like carry ou? Can I load the car for you? Service clerk at the repair shop that has your car parked so you don't have to get wet. Then you can say anything you like because you are old. Doesn't matter what you do in town where everyone knows you because your reputation doesn't matter anymore. The receptionist at the Drs office smiles and addresses you by name. Other shoppers jump aside as you race round the store in one of their electric carts. They even have a little horn on them.. My lawyer helped me find soup in the store. I am sure she doesn't want to upset me because my previous two lawyers became my patients and died (No I didn't kill them I had known them both for years) I don't have to take a bath if I don't want to. My cleaner worries more about the dust than I do. I have installed a stair lift to get up and down to the basement.. The only regret is that i should have married a much younger man because the one I have now is wearing out too. Yes getting old can be fun. You know so much more than you used to. Enjoy
Nan, my Mom was that way, heaven forbid any doctor that told her an ailment was "age related". Oh how my Mom hated to hear that. And if the doctor was a woman, Mom later would say "she doesn't know what she is talking about".
Well, getting old isn't easy. Think about all the things that happen. An elder can no longer drive to the mall on their own to meet friends for lunch.... those friends probably have moved or passed away.... clothes don't fit right.... you got aches and pains.... food taste funny because your taste buds are disappearing.... darn it, you can't hear or see like you did when younger.... and you can't remember squat.
My Dad accepted getting older, but he had his grumbling moments. For him if he complained that he couldn't remember something, I would chime in saying I was having the same problem, too. Then we would joke about it, making him feel so much better. Same with aches and pains. Dad and I would sound like two old people sitting on a front porch in rocking chairs comparing our ailments. Well, I was a senior myself :)
Each person takes getting older differently. Some think life is over when they are 55... other won't think that way until they are 95.
Nan, what is the easiest thing to do is to agree with your Mom, even if you don't. It's just not worth a huge debate.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Some people just are that way! My MIL refuses to engage in any kind of activitiems has ONE friend, never wants to be with any of the family expect my DIL'S. She's acted old and crabby since forever. She got whiplash about 40 years ago and the dr said she had the "neck of an 80 yo". When she did turn 80, my DH said "hey, you're the same age as your neck now!" She was not amused.
I have been surprised to find that aging brings some sucky moments, I have arthritis, and everything hurts, but sheesh, I have hands! I can't remember everything, but that means I am forgetting bad stuff too. I find myself to be more forgiving, more patient, partly due to just being tired. I have plenty of time to listen to my grandkids ramble on and on and I am highly amused by them. We finally have money to "play with" and I DO!
You can look at it any way you want, but NOBODY gets younger. I'd like a nickel for every time my MIL looked at me and said I wasn't acting my age. Exactly how DOES a 61 yo act? Can I NOT jump on the trampoline if I want to?
I love that at age 88 she is still telling me to act my age.
Nope, never gonna happen. I tell my MIL, "You're not getting younger, neither is anybody else, you're not that special!" and go on about my life.
At one company I worked for, one of the Receptionists was in her 80's. Once in awhile she would get something mixed up, but she would reply that being in her 80's she was allowed to do that !! LOL
That doesn't mean you can't enjoy it.
Think of all the wonderful people who help out feeble old ladies. M''aam can I help you with that?
Young lady that looks too heavy for you?
Would you like carry ou?
Can I load the car for you?
Service clerk at the repair shop that has your car parked so you don't have to get wet.
Then you can say anything you like because you are old.
Doesn't matter what you do in town where everyone knows you because your reputation doesn't matter anymore.
The receptionist at the Drs office smiles and addresses you by name.
Other shoppers jump aside as you race round the store in one of their electric carts. They even have a little horn on them..
My lawyer helped me find soup in the store. I am sure she doesn't want to upset me because my previous two lawyers became my patients and died (No I didn't kill them I had known them both for years)
I don't have to take a bath if I don't want to.
My cleaner worries more about the dust than I do.
I have installed a stair lift to get up and down to the basement..
The only regret is that i should have married a much younger man because the one I have now is wearing out too.
Yes getting old can be fun. You know so much more than you used to. Enjoy
Well, getting old isn't easy. Think about all the things that happen. An elder can no longer drive to the mall on their own to meet friends for lunch.... those friends probably have moved or passed away.... clothes don't fit right.... you got aches and pains.... food taste funny because your taste buds are disappearing.... darn it, you can't hear or see like you did when younger.... and you can't remember squat.
My Dad accepted getting older, but he had his grumbling moments. For him if he complained that he couldn't remember something, I would chime in saying I was having the same problem, too. Then we would joke about it, making him feel so much better. Same with aches and pains. Dad and I would sound like two old people sitting on a front porch in rocking chairs comparing our ailments. Well, I was a senior myself :)
Each person takes getting older differently. Some think life is over when they are 55... other won't think that way until they are 95.
Nan, what is the easiest thing to do is to agree with your Mom, even if you don't. It's just not worth a huge debate.