My Nanny has progressive Parkinsons and lives in my aunt's land in her own appartment. She is in TX, I'm stationed in Oklahoma.
My aunt is a former heavy drug user and at times mentally unstable. She will not allow family members or friends to visit my grandmother. She claims to be her "legal guardian " but cannot/will not show proof. She does have a POA but it is medical. She claims to have paperwork from a lawyer stating she can decide whether or not people can visit. Is there such a document that exsists?
My Nanny is depressed and cries because no one visits her but she doesn't know my aunt is the reason why. Does this count as isolation? A form of elder abuse? Maybe my aunt does it to spite me but what if something else is going on? Is there a number or someone I can call to get some help?
Edited: I am not the only one she wont let visit. There is a long list.
I'd likely consult with an attorney and explore obtaining the information you need. If a Guardian has been appointed as JoAnn said, it would be a case name with her name and file number in the courthouse. So, you can find that out. If a Guardian is appointed, they have to file annual accounts to show how the Ward's money is being spent, with receipts.
You can do a police wellness check, but, what they may do is just go in and ask her if she's okay, a few questions and if she answers she's okay, they'll leave. I suppose it's better than nothing, but, I'd want to get the truth.
My brother is a retired captain and they did welfare checks every time they got a call to do so.
Don’t hesitate calling thinking they won’t follow through. They will. Tell them what you have relayed to us. Make sure you mention the past drug usage. Addicts do ANYTHING for a fix. Please call. Please let us know that she is okay. Take care. You and your nanny will be in my thoughts.
Does the grandmother have money that she is after or using now?
How did your grandmother end up with her niece? Is she aware of her past drug usage? Do you suspect she may be using again?
Get a welfare check done.
Old people I think are more fearful because they are soooooo vulnerable. It is heart breaking.
Often people will accuse caregiver of isolating a loved one, but will not attempt a visit. It is kinda a dysfunctional way out of what could be an unpleasant visit.
Is there other family that can take grandma in? Where she will go needs to be determined before you have her removed from her home and that is probably what needs to happen if aunt is keeping everyone away, this is the 1st thing abusers do.
Good luck and let us know how it works out.