Chloe99 Asked January 2019
What to watch out for when looking into assisted living?
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We're moving our loved one into a home. I want to know a few things to watch out for and perhaps the right questions to ask while we're there!
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And if she runs out of money do they accept Medicaid? Do they have Medicaid beds available? How long must she private pay before Medicaid would kick in?
Medicaid is usually only available in nursing homes, in most states. If she needs a nursing home in the future will you have to move her again?
What are their policies on evicting a resident? Yes, it happens more often than we all know. My mom, in memory care, became a danger to herself and others and was kicked out. She was on hospice at that time. Hospice recommended a smaller care home where all residents had been kicked out of their previous facilities. Yes, it happens. And it was cheaper!
The smaller facility was much better suited to my mom. It was her last residence as she passed after being there about five months. They also allowed hospice to come in for the residents there. Another important consideration in choosing a facility is if hospice is allowed. Not all do.
You may want to call a well reputed hospice to ask about their recommendations for a facility.
Thank you for taking the time to write.
Will the new home be part of a chain of Assisting Living facilities, or will it be a smaller home which has only a few residents? Does the facility provide the furniture or does the love one bring their own?
One thing to make sure, what is all included in the monthly rent? Some places charge a base rent, then other items are extra. When my Dad moved into senior living, his rent included weekly housekeeping, weekly linen service [Dad had to use his own sheets/towels], meals in the facility "restaurant". Personal laundry was an extra cost or a family member could do the personal laundry.
Physical therapy was also included if one's health insurance would approve. Medicine control was an extra monthly cost. Dad's electric bill was extra cost, so was the phone service. Dad did have cable TV which was included [Dad had to use his own TV].
Once Dad moved to the Assisted Living/Memory Care side of the building, the linen service was daily [the facility provided the sheets, pillow cases, and towels], housekeeping was almost daily. Facility also did the personal laundry. Medicine was part of the rent. I believe so was the electric, phone service, and cable TV.
Ask how is the monthly billing prepared. Is the bill paid by check or pulled from a checking account. Ask that the bill be sent directly to you. My Dad use to get a copy of the bill but that would make him grumble about the cost and him wanting to find some place cheaper :P
Usually on a tour of the facility, you and your love one can enjoy a free lunch. That will give you an idea on the variety of the menu, if there is one. My Dad was able to keep his lactose-free ice cream in their refrigerator, and the wait staff would know to ask him if he wanted desert of ice cream.
Ask if there is a Registered Nurse available around the clock, always in the facility. If your love one has memory issues and is moving into Memory Care, ask how the main doors are secure. I know that was a relief knowing my Dad couldn't wander off his floor at night time. During the day he could go anywhere in the building as the Receptionist knew not to let Dad outside without someone being with him.
Hope this helps.
Research! You want to be certain our loved one is well cared for. Part of this peace of mind comes from understanding the rights of assisted living residents and the obligations of the assisted living community. But this task is made more challenging because assisted living communities are not regulated nationally like nursing homes. Instead, each state has its own laws, regulations and licensing standards for assisted living communities. I suggest that you familiarize yourself with your rights and the legal obligations of assisted living communities where you live.
Look for amenities that you know are important to your loved one. Read the reviews to find out what other residents think of the community. If possible, go together to visit the community that looks like a good fit, so you can get a feel for the place and weigh in with what your loved one thinks of it before a final decision is made. From my experience, you most likely will not be able to find a AL community that’s perfect in every way and one they will love right away, but you should be able to find one that provides features your loved one needs to be happy.
There are many sites that offer great information.
· U.S. Department of Health & Human Services
· Elder Care services in your state
· AARP
Good luck.
• Go for a visit without your LO. Describe to the salesperson exactly what your LO can and cannot do for themselves. Be very forthcoming, don't sugarcoat anything.
• On the tour: check out the finishes and furnishings, do they look reasonably well kept up? Does the staff look engaged with the residents? Do residents look like they are engaged with each other?
• Ask what level of care they will handle. Can you LO age in place there? Some ALs only handle very basic ADLs. Can your LO get PT, imaging, blood work, podiatry visits...in-house? The more that can be handled there, the fewer visits to doctors offices.
• If it's a concern, ask what happens when your LO runs out of money.
• Ask to visit with your LO and have lunch in the dining room (maybe even with a resident) or come to a happy hour or other activity. If they refuse this, it's a red flag and they better have a very good reason why you can't.
• Get them to assess your mom. They should offer to send their nurse to do it wherever your mom is and should be able to get it done within a couple of days, often same day. The assessment will tell you exactly how much her care will cost. If you're looking at multiple ALs, have each one do an assessment, don't assume they will all assess the same.
• Once you've made a decision and are ready to reserve an apartment, it can't hurt to ask if there are any special offers (reduction in community fee, reduced rent for x months, etc).
Sometime economics or other care factors have to take priority in selecting a home, but when deciding between acceptable choices, considering these other factors can make our LO'a transition and acceptance of their new home easier.
Make sure both are good or it will be miserable.
If your loved one can still walk and speak up for her/himself, that's even better.
Once that's not available, assisting living facilities becomes more challenging [from my experience].
All the best to you and your family!!
From what I have seen, Assisted Living offers a private studio apartment for their residents. I use to joke with my Dad about his "dorm room". Dad needed help with showering, sometimes with using the toilet, and taking his medicine. The Aides would check on him a few times during the day. He did wear a medical alert in case he fell. He was mobile using his rolling walker.
My Mom was living in a nursing home. Mom had forgot how to walk or even stand. Yet she would constantly try to get out of bed or out of a wheelchair. Mom needed help being fed, and everything one would do for a child. She could no longer understand a request. She thought she was on vacation and staying at a hotel. She thought my Dad was her brother. Her condition would have been to overwhelming for Assisted Living.
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