Sometimes my mom seems disoriented. Other times she’s fine.
Doc ruled out Alzheimer’s and other probs. Just old age setting in.
I'm her only caregiver and have left my job to stay home with her. I need to run out for meds, groceries etc..
She lives in the middle of nowhere.
How can I make sure she’s safe while I go get the things she needs.
No delivery services available here in the Idaho panhandle.
Does your mom do any dangerous things like use the stove? Leave the water running? Does she ever leave the house and wander? If she's not been showing any potentially dangerous behaviors and you have no reason to anticipate her doing things like any moment, then it could be deemed reasonable to leave her alone for short periods of time. My mom's a bit confused but I leave her alone to run errands, go on a visit, but I really don't feel she's a danger. Yet. Just do an honest assessment.
If not it might be a good idea to get a few.
If mom is having a good day go run your errands but if it happens to be a day where she seems particularly confused I would stick to home. Or if mom is able take her with you to the store or to run the errands you have to do. She might enjoy getting out for a while.
I also think the doctor did a great disservice in giving his "diagnosis". I think it warrants a visit to a Neurologist or a Neuropsychologist for a thorough evaluation.
Anyway, if you don't feel comfortable leaving mom alone, then don't. There's nothing better than a daughter's instinct, that's what I've learned over the years! Get a camera or two to put around the house or only leave her if she's having a good day, like Grandma1954 suggested. It's not realistic to NEVER be able to leave the house, so look into getting an aide to come in a few days a week for a few hours; get mom used to having someone else to care for her so you're not tied down 24/7 and so she's not fully against having outside help. We see that problem here all the time. Get that set up (using HER $$$) asap, that's my suggestion. And then run your errands and get your alone time while the CG is at the house.
Wishing you the best of luck with all you have on your plate.
Family, especially close family like you often notice memory & other cognitive changes years before a Doctor will. (To their defence a Dr may only see the patient, paying attention well, in a 10 min consult).
Many times a general practicioner has ruled out dementia but a thorough neuro exam will highlight exactly what level each skill is at (short term memory, longer term, reasoning, spatial, judgement, maths, word finding, language & more).
Is it worth doing all that now? To get a baseline? I can't answer that.
What I would do is invesrigate. Arrange a thorough medical to rule out all other reasons for these symptoms. UTI is common or some other infection. Also vitamin deficiency, reduction in kidney function or cardiovascular problems.
Trust your gut instinct. Keep looking for answers.
If you have already quit you job to supervise/assist full-time, this means your Mom is no longer independent & something is amiss.