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I would call your County Office of Aging. Ask if they can evaluate you living situation. Depending on your income, they maybe able to help you with an aide. Most have bussing to shop and take you to appts.
Luna, check out Care.com and find someone who can help you with all the things you need help with. You can read their profiles and see their photos online.
Alva is correct – it’s not just transport for shopping. Your profile says “I cannot clean my tub, carry laundry up and down stairs, sweeping and washing floors and other things I used to be able to do”. You need to post again with more detail about what you can’t do, and how long you expect the problem to last. Could you do that?
Questions like these always lead me to suggest that the "bigger questions" are now worth considering. There's a ton of ways for you to get temporary help from friends, families, neighbors, Uber, Lyft, cab, public transit if your town has special transit for disabled as my own does. However, when you are looking at being unable to get yourself places it is time to consider ALF if it is at all possible, or a sort of village community where transport to certain malls and medical facilities is part of the fee.
When my brother got his dx. of probable early Lewy's there were social workers at his rehab (after an accident in his car) who told him that he could still stay in his last home for some time "with help". Not really. No computer and no smart phone and no way to order groceries in Palm Springs without one. A bunch of kind and well meaning neighbors assuring him they would "take care of him" and the truth is he made the right decision in not being dependent on the "kindness of strangers" and friends; I was half the state away and couldn't be of help. He went into ALF likely before he needed to so as not to be a burden on others. And it would have become increasingly difficult for him to get around.
Now you may be facing something temporary, and if that is so, just kick all I said to the curb and carry on. And know in any case I sure do wish you luck. Call your local council on aging and ask to be put in touch with any special paratransit that is available where you live.
I took care of my husband with dementia for seven years. I ordered groceries on line and it was a tremendous help. You can order from most major grocers. I never had problems with the items delivered.
How did you make it? How long was he sick? I have no help and I found out he wasn't taking his meds and now his doctors won't see him, because he lies about everything! He even told a doctor that I was abusing him! He's tried to kill me several times and will probably be successful! I have no one to talk to since his last doctor said she can't help a liar and hung up! Everyone tells me to get a divorce! At 73 and sick I have no idea what to do! Even the county closed the abuse case against me! When they saw how sick I am and realized that he lies about everything they just closed the case with no help for me! I don't have anything but my home in assets because he got us into debt by not paying the bills! My daughter refuses to help because she said that I should have left him years ago! He totaled my car and we were sued because it was his fault! He jumps out of the car when I'm driving and tells everybody that I try to run over him! He has an outside personality and acts so friendly! He's an evil person! Any suggestions?
Contact your county social services to see if you qualify for rides. Or, contact your local Area Agency on Aging for resources.
You can also contact churches to see if they have a Care Ministry where they have a team of volunteers to drive elders places (that's what my church does). You don't have to be an attender or member or even a believer.
My husband's Grandparents lived in Chicago and his Gramma had a taxi come on the same day at the same time to take her to her hair appointments. Just saying if you had this arrangement with whomever it'd make it easier for your driver to help you.
You can call Care.com and find a companion aid that you can pay to do it, or go on to Nextdoor.com for volunteers from your neighborhood or community. I get lots of responses when I put out requests for help there.
You could call a Lift or Uber, or you might be able to find a senior transportation service in your specific area. Additionally, since you are computer savvy, you could also look into ordering your groceries for deliver if they have a service like that in your area.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Good luck.
However, when you are looking at being unable to get yourself places it is time to consider ALF if it is at all possible, or a sort of village community where transport to certain malls and medical facilities is part of the fee.
When my brother got his dx. of probable early Lewy's there were social workers at his rehab (after an accident in his car) who told him that he could still stay in his last home for some time "with help". Not really. No computer and no smart phone and no way to order groceries in Palm Springs without one. A bunch of kind and well meaning neighbors assuring him they would "take care of him" and the truth is he made the right decision in not being dependent on the "kindness of strangers" and friends; I was half the state away and couldn't be of help. He went into ALF likely before he needed to so as not to be a burden on others. And it would have become increasingly difficult for him to get around.
Now you may be facing something temporary, and if that is so, just kick all I said to the curb and carry on. And know in any case I sure do wish you luck. Call your local council on aging and ask to be put in touch with any special paratransit that is available where you live.
You can also contact churches to see if they have a Care Ministry where they have a team of volunteers to drive elders places (that's what my church does). You don't have to be an attender or member or even a believer.
My husband's Grandparents lived in Chicago and his Gramma had a taxi come on the same day at the same time to take her to her hair appointments. Just saying if you had this arrangement with whomever it'd make it easier for your driver to help you.
You can call Care.com and find a companion aid that you can pay to do it, or go on to Nextdoor.com for volunteers from your neighborhood or community. I get lots of responses when I put out requests for help there.