3 siblings with me the man and oldest who has ALWAYS looked after mom.
Youngest sister who is mom's POA has been sneaky and teaming up with our middle sister who barely has 11th grade education and depends on lanaes favoritism is her puppet. Lanae the POA has talked about me always making herself in the good light undermining and talking forcefully to me lately but I'm not acceptable of her behavior. She NEVER wants to come over and get hands on helping me with Mom, ALWAYS just 1 weekend of the month is all. Her doing mom's bank statement is her reason for helping us out with Mom. She is out of control and I am willing to try 1 last time to reason with her before I totally cut her out of communication with me. She acts as though she has the authority and control to do whatever she decides and our middle sister jumps bc she has mom's car which little sister controls? I don't know how to find out just what she can or cannot do with her POA access? Thanks for reading.
As POA, your sister has the responsibility of taking care of Mom’s finances. She is to make certain all mom’s bills are paid. She has to show receipts for everything she is spending and it must be on Mom. If you have any suspicions that they are misusing Mom’s funds, you can confront them and ask to be shown expense receipts. If she has Durable POA, she is also responsible for Mom’s medical care. Unfortunately, neither sister is obligated to help you with your mother. Contributing to caregiving is not part of the responsibilities of a POA. If you are as angry and burned out as you sound, perhaps your “one more chance” before you cut your sister off should be to tell her you’ve reached your limit and either she takes mom to live with her or mom goes to a facility. That would surely put a big crimp in her attitude toward you, wouldn’t it?