I feel like I am getting close to my breaking point and have no idea what to do. I am a single dad raising 2 boys alone. Their mother has no contact with them. I am caring for my dad who has been diagnosed by 2 different doctors with dimentia. He is being treated with medication (rosipridol and serouquel). He is a 2 time cancer survivor (prostrate and colon) and I cared for him through both of those times. I am doing this alone, despite having 7 siblings and his brother and sister. Noone will help me. I had to quit my job at the begining of the year to care for him while he was going through chemo-therapy. He put the house in my name awhile back (he still has mortgages) and signed a durable POA naming me his agent. My dad is a proud man, and has become increasing abusive. I am trying to juggle too many things and keep everything together. His finances suffered greatly before I moved back home with my kids after my divorce and we have gotten them straightened out but he is again starting to bounce checks and causes extreme problems between me and my children. I do not know what to do. Please help me...
I just wanted to say that all of you are heroes. Taking care of an elderly person is not easy. I myself I’ve been taking care of my 73 year old mother who’s suffering from diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol and she is legally blind. I get no help from my 3 brothers and 2 sisters. I do know what all of you are going through. I want to continue taking care of my mom and others. Since 2007 my mother and I have been going to nursing homes and visiting the elderly. Many of the nursing homes that we visited do not take good care of the people properly. We encouraged them by praying and reading the Bible to those who wants to listen. I am in the process of opening a nursing home in Buckeye, AZ if any of you are looking for a nursing home or if you know anyone who is looking for loving nursing home for a parent (s), please let them know about Buckeye First Nursing Home Care. Please contact me at the information below. I do not have a website yet, but you can check my ministry website at www.judithministryforgod.com
Thank you,
Judith Carter
623-466-9773
May I begin by saying that you must be a great son to take on all the responsibility of raising two boys and trying to help your father. It sounds like your father may be more then you can handle, especially if it is affecting your relationship with your children. It is a sad fact that some dementia patients do become very confused and combative. Have you considered placing your father in a facility that take care of dementia patients? As a caregiver myself, one of the hardest things to do is not feel guilty. Your two sons come first. I wish you all the best. Keep in touch and let us know how things are going.