My Mom and I are living together in a one bedroom apartment We share expenses but money is tight since I am not working full time as a Caregiver The agency I am employment by was suppose to find me other clients but after three weeks still nothing I have noticed since we moved in August My Mom sometimes gets a little aggressive with me and sometimes I feel overwhelmed from the lack of support I get from her I didn't notice her attitude to much before but alot has changed with money being the main issue I try not to take her comments seriously but it hurts sometimes the way she acts Now I am her paid Caregiver she acts like she has control over me and gets upset when my husband calls or we even go out (we are seperated and they can't stand one another) which I respect but don't like to be reminded I hoping when work picks up things will get better I just feel like nothing I do is right My Mom critizes me on everything She is on Medications but it doesn't seem to change her mood any Some days are good and others are bad but I guess this is the adjustment period and it will get better it time Any suggestions to improve the stress level and makes things run a little more smooth would be great She is 73yrs old and sometimes we don't see things eye to eye like we us to (she is my birth Mom but wasn't raised by her we became close after my Mom died (Her Mother my Grandmother) Our relationship has been up and down but not like a Mother and Daughter Relationship She tries but it isn't the same Thank you for any advice or any Inspiration to get me through Blessings Deborah
The problems in my Marriage brought us together I thought by taking care of her and being a paid caregiver which I wasn't aware that her insurance covered it would take some of the stress of knowing we had one income we could count on I just received my Certification for PCA and I am hoping that this will open other doors for me I know for now since she is still in good health she wouldn't be comfortable with anyone else but I know maybe down the line I will need to make other decisions about her care I am starting to get everything together for her like A Power of Attorney and assigning someone to make the decisions when she is not able to Sometimes I just get overwhelmed sometimes and I need somewhere to go Just someone to listen to me and knowing I am not alone That there is others going through the same issues This is all knew to me Changing Careers and going through Life Changes is very challenging as well as taking care of my Mom I have done it on my own without being paid since I brought her up here in 2001 It hasn't been easy but I know there is a reason we keep finding ourselves back with each other Thank you for listening and for your impute I was just letting go that night I wrote that so much stress trying to make ends meet and not getting the support you need sometimes makes it even more challenging Blessings