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Replacing the much lamented 'On My Mind' profile option, this thread is for musings, jottings, whimsies, preoccupations and the rest of the thesaurus for anyone to jot down anything they please.


I can't remember what the maximum character count was before, can anyone else? But anyway it wasn't very many so let's keep to that.

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That's cute 🥰, I actually just looked on Amazon at the llama coloring books. They look adorable.

I am so obsessed right now, with coloring. I just ordered a New Orleans coloring book, that will be fun! 😊
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Daisy: My DD gave me a llama adult coloring book for my January birthday!
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So I've been adult coloring, these cool 😎 pictures. It actually sounds a bit silly, but there is a lot to it is you want to be really good professional colorer. 😆 So I'm thinking now I have all these really cool pics what to do with them?? I'm thinking of coating them with a spray mog podge , and covering the wall of my kitty litter room
💖💖
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Way - very likely!
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@Golden ,

Yup the denial I’ve seen the past two days is astounding . I told DH , they will find partner ( who isn’t eating much) on the floor at home .
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Waytomisery, everything Golden said!!!

Take care of yourself and DH. 🫂💖
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((((Way)))) Oh my goodness!!!! Lots of denial going around.Mil is having a hard time facing her realities. Well, it kept her in her condo longer, but I would not be surprised if she goes straight to SNF with all her health issues. This talk of partying is fantasy. Let her talk. It's not going to happen, She is trying to save face with her friends and avoid her current fairly unpleasant state and also what is looming in her future. Pure escapism Don't let it get to you. If she wants to fantasize, whatever.

Partner's family are also in denial. I'm glad the bill paying went well. They need to smell the coffee and they probably will eventually. Mil can't babysit their dad anymore. Yes, memory care is expensive. Maybe they haven't made any back up plans. Not your problem as such but can cause problems for you I am sure.

Hope Dh detaches and doesn't worry about mil's foolishness. Trouble is he has had too much of that sort of thing to deal with, with his dad. I'm sure it's a sensitive area for him. Hope all the legalities are panning out reasonably.

Prayers for all.
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@Golden,

Well ,partners family is still holding out hope that MIL has some miraculous recovery and comes home so she can supervise again . We did see partner and family as we had to meet up to settle up paying household bills , which went well . They are not realizing how bad partner is , they also mentioned how expensive memory care is .

MIL is so bad she may not even make it to AL , she may skip ( not literally ) right into SNF . She waited too long . We begged her to go to AL 6 months ago . She apparently has some bad bedsores and her pelvic , sacral , and spinal compression fractures have her immobile . She says she has walked alittle in PT . We watched the aide transfer her . She is dead weight until he gets her to stand .
Assisted living came and did assessment yesterday . MIL will have to have her wounds healed and be able to stand and pivot . If she can’t , to SNF she goes .
They said at least 3 more week in rehab .

Meanwhile we walked in on MIL on the phone with her friend talking about lunch outing plans next month when friend from Florida comes up north for the summer. I don’t think so .
DH is having his moments of frustration with MIL during our visit .At times she is talking about unrealistic plans for when she leaves rehab of partying with her friends at her condo and driving again . It’s strangely alike to FIL 3 years ago . At one point I sent DH out for coffee/tea for us .
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Oh, wow, Way. That really says it!!! Not a scenario for you, for sure. How are you and Dh doing as this episode progresses?
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So today we were at MIL’s rehab . We were waiting in the hallway while the aide got MIL dressed.

While we were waiting in the hallway , another patient was brought back to her room across the hall . I could hear the staff member saying “ Here is your remote , your call bell etc.”. Then the staff member was moving her overbed table near her and said something along the lines that she would straighten it up .

The patient ( a female ) said “ Don’t worry about it . My son is coming , my daughter-in-law will clean it up “. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️
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THANKS!
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Venting, good to see you.
Wishing you luck.
I hope things work out really well.
Let us know. Thinking of you.
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Today, 5 April 2025, it suddenly occurred to me the major problem I have in my life. Probably half the battle IS correctly identifying what’s the problem.

Namely:
There’s someone in my life I miss. I’m going to reach out to them. Let’s see if this solves 99% of my problems. Maybe even 100%.
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“You have power over your mind-not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” Marcus Aurelius
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for anyone going through a very, very, very, very hard time right now:

here’s some luck 🍀🍀🍀
and a huggggg 🌈🌈🌈

things can get very hard sometimes. hang in there. sometimes solutions pop up unexpectedly.

🙂🙂🙂
bundle of joy
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Way - thinking of you and your stubborn Mil. Hope some progress is being made at the lawyers. (((((hugs)))))

Eva - thinking of you too. I know things are tough for you and Dh . (((((hugs))))

On the other side, I just had a phone call from a friend of many years who lives in a small town about 3 hrs south of us. She has just moved into an assisted living and is very happy there. Her husband of about 15 years (second marriage for both, each lost a spouse) had his 95th birthday a week ago. He will not move though he has heart and mobility problems. She is a few years younger than I am but has mobility problems (uses a walker) and I believe has had some heart problems.

She is as happy as a clam! I asked if she had friends there and she said about 10 more than she figured so she is very well off in that department!!! She has a small living room with kitchen off it and a small bedroom and bathroom. Her only concern is how far she is from the dining room (due to her mobility). She makes her own breakfast and eats the other meals in the dining room with her friends. there are lots of activities. The staff are very kind and helpful. The cost is prorated to your income.

Both her kids and I have been encouraging her to go ahead and move despite her husband's decision to stay, as she was having such trouble getting around. I suspect she will be in a wheel chair before too long. I also suspect her hub will eventually follow as his health declines. He is a collector of stuff (not a hoarder yet anyway) and I think that is part of what keeps him in his house. He likes his hobbies but is less and less able to do them. In any case, she is now in the right place for her. We have talked about this over the years and I am very happy for her.
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Way - poor Dh - between and rock and a hard place. The relatives hand out opinions easily as they don't have to do anything. My sis was quick to do that too but never to lend a hand - just criticize. I made my own decisions regardless of what she thought. She would find something to criticize anyway. I don't know of that is what Dh's relatives are like.

I totally understand that he does not want to be her POA. It's all such a mess and she is unpredictable. It's a huge commitment.

It's all a bit late for her to be concerned now, but maybe it will motivate her to take some sensible steps. It's been extremely frustrating for you and Dh to try to help her protect herself and her assets and have her disregard your advice.

(((((hugs)))) and prayers for a path through all this

Meanwhile take a little break when you can - treat yourself/yourselves to something you enjoy. Go out for a nice meal and don't talk about it, go to a movie or even just watch one together on TV with popcorn. Life goes on despite Mil's messes.
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Drivingdaisy,

I would like him to step back , but he’s in FOG from relatives .
The problem may be if he signs POA, and MIL , becomes uncooperative again…..
we frequently say/read on this Forum to give up POA. I recently learned from my nephew who looked into it that it’s next to impossible in my state anyway . He said he would pretty much have to be in a coma . Idk about NY where MIL lives .

But I agree , MIL made her bed…. She did not untangle herself financially from her partner, or at least have some proper legal papers drawn up regarding what happens if one needs to pay for care . It’s a mess and may need to go to court to force the house to be sold to pay for her care .
We begged her for years to get advice from an eldercare attorney . MIL is acting surprised that this is happening . Meanwhile NOW she’s worried that partner ( with advanced Alzheimer’s ) may burn the house down . 🙄🙄
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Way, maybe he should refuse to be POA, and tell mom , you snooze you loose. She had her chance over and over again.
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Right now I would be happy to not have any relatives on my husband’s side ( pressuring him).
This is the only reason he is trying to clean up the mess MIL has made. He really does not want to be her POA.
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Golden, glad you like your new appliances!

Im just having a hard time being patient with stupid lately. 😂
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New stove and fridge working fine. Still no word about the dishwasher repair. I am particularly enjoying the new fridge which is larger and more convenient than the old one. I like not having to bend down to see what is on the bottom shelves. The bottom freezer will be fine once I have it organized.

Good news, R's PSA is good after two bouts of ADT. He will get checked again in 6 months.

Way and Psue - thinking of both of you and so so glad I am no longer in that role. So, so glad.

Daisy - I'm a bit irritable today too. Maybe we need winter to be over. I know I'm tired from the appliance changes and am having to watch my mouth and not succeeding 100%.
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Golden, I hope your new appliances work well , once you get them all straightened out.

Peasuep & waytomisery, how's things going?

On my mind- I've become, quite mouthy, to people. I yelled at a friends bf yesterday when he started preaching about the evils of the vaccine. I told him he has his views I have mine, but he wouldn't stop! I just went nuts , thinking back on it , I just can't believe it was me it's just after 5 years of this dam controversy I'm so sick of it. Like this is getting so darn old people. Let's just respect each other's views, and shut UP. I told him all that while he just stared at me.

Then on the 🚢 I told a guy he is a masginistic jerk and walked away.

My mouth is going to get me in trouble one of this days.
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The delivery guys are great. They are helping R load the fridge into his truck. He wants it for the farm.

Stove not to be plugged in for an hour - fridge two hours. Never heard that for a stove before.
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LOL!
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I'm sure you will be nice Golden, nephew tells me they will sometimes do extras for nice customers (especially the little old ladies😜) Of course it's the bizarre ones that make for the best stories LOL
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cw - I promise to be nice to the delivery men!!! 😊 What they will and won't do has been written down in various places.
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My delivery man nephew says they get a lot of grief when they tell customers not to plug in their fridges right away. They also get yelled at a lot for not hooking up hoses on fridges, washers and dryers or assembling furniture, and for not taking away mattresses when it hasn't been prearranged and they aren't bagged - seems the sales people promise they will do all kinds of things that are not part of their job.
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No, they didn't cw. Thanks. I'll check with the delivery people. What I have read is 2-3 if it was transported upright, but at least 4 hrs. if transported on it's side. Then it needs time to cool once plugged in.
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Golden, did anybody prepare you for the fact you shouldn't plug in the new fridge for 24 hours?
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