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My mother in law who has Alzheimer’s moved in recently and I am completely overwhelmed. Apart from Alzheimer’s she is going blind and always needs something or something always hurts that we constantly have to take her to the hospital. My husband asked me before she moved in about what I thought and to be honest. Well before I could even answer he put a guilt trip on me that he “would do it for my parents”. I didn’t say anything. She is in the living room all day so I don’t hang out there anymore. I can’t opinion because he gets hurt and will always put guilt trips on me about my parents like “well what would you do!?” “I would be happy if your parents were here”Im Hispanic and we have that mentality that if we don’t take care of our parents we are failures as kids. My parents are still young and I’m not planning on moving them in the near future. I doubt that would ever happen either because they live in another state and I have siblings who live there. My husband has siblings but they could care less for her. Today he is hurt with me and not talking with me because I said that I said that I like my privacy. Right away he asks “what your privacy was taken away or what”?I seriously can’t say anything because he will get hurt or we end up in a fight. please give me advice.
You tried it.
It's not working.
A new plan is needed.

Keep calm. Find a good time to speak to your Husband alone. Out of the house if possible.

Side step the 'your parents - my parents' guilt talk.
Focus on his Mother's care needs.

Use facts eg Alzheimer's Disease is progressive & life-limiting. Focus on safety & wellbeing - for ALL of you. The care plan must work for ALL of you - right now it is not.

First step is for him to hear you.
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