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Really, that aide is at least half his age and he thinks she will marry him? Thats delusional and says Dementia to me.
Did the aide get fired? As Alva says, aides should not be discussing their personal life with residents. He did say she turned it down. IMO the aide should have told the her boss what the resident was doing. Then her boss explains to brother that staff cannot receive money from residents. If he is fixated on that aide, she should not have been allowed to care for him.
If you are not his PoA you have no power to do anything except report it to the admins of this nursing home and maybe talk to an ombudsman. But again, if you aren't his PoA, not sure this can go anywhere. If he has a legal guardian, I would certainly inform this person or entity.
If he has no PoA and no legal guardian, then I would consider talking to social services to get him on track for a guardian. He'll need one at some point, it seems sooner rather than later.
Question here is: IS he of sound mind? Or is he diagnosed with dementia?
That honestly is the only question as far as HIS actions go, as if he is competent he can give money to whomever and whenever he wishes.
HOWEVER: the CNA is out of line and KNOWS it. That is abuse of her job. Any CNA working there would have been severely cautioned about this. She should not be working in a care facility.
I would simply tell brother "I understand it is your choice to give money to whomever you like (IF this is true) BUT the CNA knows BETTER than to discuss her personal situation with those she is giving care to; that isn't legal OR ethical. And while YOU may be competent there are many here who ARE NOT and who may lose EVERYTHING to someone who is essentially acting abusively in her job. I am sorry you are offended but I did what I believed was right, and I would do it all over again, and if that means you don't wish to see me or talk to me, that's fine. Call when you want to; meanwhile I will catch up with friends. AND, do know if you ever report someone doing something this dangerous and illegal and scammy again, I WILL REPORT IT".
End of sentence. You can shorten it if you like ;)
You say that bro also was speaking of marriage. That makes me tend to think he is NOT rational. So only you can know how irrational he is. This may simply blow over without your saying a thing. Please be certain that your complaint is in writing. It is important for the sake of others that this is investigated and addressed.
Thanks, the CNA is no longer employed at the facility because of this episode. Bro is not diagnosed with dementia. He has a history of bad decisions in his life and this was just one more. I wrote him an email and will leave it at that.
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Since brother is competent, then I guess you just bide your time. I am to the age I just don't let those type of things get to me.
Did the aide get fired? As Alva says, aides should not be discussing their personal life with residents. He did say she turned it down. IMO the aide should have told the her boss what the resident was doing. Then her boss explains to brother that staff cannot receive money from residents. If he is fixated on that aide, she should not have been allowed to care for him.
All you can do is apologize to him and ask his forgiveness if you want to repair the relationship.
If he has no PoA and no legal guardian, then I would consider talking to social services to get him on track for a guardian. He'll need one at some point, it seems sooner rather than later.
That honestly is the only question as far as HIS actions go, as if he is competent he can give money to whomever and whenever he wishes.
HOWEVER:
the CNA is out of line and KNOWS it.
That is abuse of her job. Any CNA working there would have been severely cautioned about this. She should not be working in a care facility.
I would simply tell brother "I understand it is your choice to give money to whomever you like (IF this is true) BUT the CNA knows BETTER than to discuss her personal situation with those she is giving care to; that isn't legal OR ethical.
And while YOU may be competent there are many here who ARE NOT and who may lose EVERYTHING to someone who is essentially acting abusively in her job.
I am sorry you are offended but I did what I believed was right, and I would do it all over again, and if that means you don't wish to see me or talk to me, that's fine. Call when you want to; meanwhile I will catch up with friends.
AND, do know if you ever report someone doing something this dangerous and illegal and scammy again, I WILL REPORT IT".
End of sentence. You can shorten it if you like ;)
You say that bro also was speaking of marriage. That makes me tend to think he is NOT rational. So only you can know how irrational he is. This may simply blow over without your saying a thing.
Please be certain that your complaint is in writing. It is important for the sake of others that this is investigated and addressed.