We are located in California. I have been her executor health director financial POA (bill payer) and know when she passes California allows me to take a small percentage as a fee but can I take an executor fee out yearly? This is not a tax free financial gift but a fee for my work. Thanks.
I will be glad when this estate is closed out. I never want to talk to his sibs again.
I really don't know WTH is wrong with your DH that he can't stand up to anyone truly vile like BIL, his sister and his mother but treats you so poorly. It is truly sickening.
Your Executor fee does not come in until her estate is probated. When the home is sold (took me 2 years), and all bills paid, there will be an accounting and in that accounting you get your fee and not till then.
Your POA document describes EXACTLY how much you can get paid for serving as POA, so pull it out and read it.
I'd suggest that you keep a record of your work now, and if you need the money now, you take a 'loan' from M's finances. At the same time, you think carefully about whether there are any beneficiaries under the will who are likely to object to this arrangement. If it's contentious, you are on very shaky ground. If no-one is going to object, it probably won't be a problem. If it's in the middle, see if you can get the potential objectors to take over some of the POA work, under your supervision of course. That may help them to see the light!