She has taken all my moms assists sold them while she is in rehab to claim mediciaid. My mom recently fell and broke her shoulder, my sister then decided while she was in rehab to sell all her belongings and put he on medicaid. My mom who is fine now that is she is out of rehab has no where to live, no car, and my sister is forcing her to live in medicaid housing by her 4 hours away from where she originally lived. Is this legal?
It is possible - isn't it? - that your aunt was doing the best she could in difficult circumstances. Let's suppose that your grandmother had been living happily in her retirement community, liked it there, didn't want to think about having to move from it and therefore paid scant attention to how she was going to continue to fund it. She then had this nasty fall, your aunt arrives on the scene - to be fair, nobody else volunteered did they? - and finds herself with a right can of worms on her hands.
Obviously, I'm just hypothesising. But this does seem to be a case of "if you think you can do better, go to it." And certainly don't assume the worst about someone unless you have good reason to do so.
Is your aunt really the sort of person who would steal money that your grandmother had set aside for your wedding? Would you accuse her of that to her face? Because that is kind of what you're implying, and as allegations go it's a biggee.
Where does Medicaid come into this?
I can certainly understand your Aunt wanting to have your Grandmother someplace close as she becomes more frail. It becomes a real burden on family members to coordinate hospital care from afar. My mom used to live in IL close to her old home. When she had a stroke and it was determined that she needed NH care, we decided to move her very close to where one brother lives. It really is necessary at some point to do this, or to pay for a geriatric care manager.
Have you tried talking to your Aunt about what's going on? Has your grandmother been diagnosed with, say, mild cognitive impairment or early dementia?
Another thing that may have happened is that your grandmother may have been out of it while she was in the hospital and rehab. Many old people become very confused in a hospital, particularly if they are drugged. I wonder if your aunt might have thought your grandmother would continue to be that confused, so acted on it.
What kind of facility is your grandmother living in now?
My grandmother fell and broke her shoulder about 6 weeks ago. She was to enter rehab after being released from the hospital. She was living in a continuing care retirement community in the independent living area, she was very active in the community and participated in daily programs that were offered and volunteered at the nursing home in the community.
When she fell my aunt took it into her own hands to drive the 4 hour trip to visit her and decided that she wouldn’t recover or that she wouldn’t be able to live on her own anymore. Without my grandmothers consent, while she was medicated she decided to clear out her apartment, sell her car, and give away items. This included a bring flat screen tv, sofa and love seat, and her crafts she was working on for the bazaar. She also sold some of my departed grandfathers belonging without any one in the family knowing.
My grandmother returned to her apartment that she has until the end of the month to discover the entire apartment was cleared out, her items were missing and some items were already boxed up and sent to a new place for her to live.
My aunt who does not have POA says she doesn’t want to make the drive to help her mom out and this is the only resolution. She has called my mother several times telling her that there mom is broke and she sold everything to help cover the cost of her driving back and fourth and moving her things to where she lives.
I live over 14 hours away and my mom lives over 20 hours away.
I know my grandmother had savings and she also did have many assets, but now she has little to nothing in her name and she says she doesn’t know how it happened because the last month was such a daze being medicated.
I only am concerned because my 82 years old grandmother texted me and then called and talked for over an hour today about it. She said just because she broke her “arm” doesn’t mean she died but that’s how my aunt is treating her. She said at her age you kind of have to go with the flow, but to me this does not seem right… any advice I could give to my mom or grandmother would greatly help