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My MIL was pressuring my husband to sell her home/land because she wanted to divide it up between him and his sister. After much pressure from her, he finally made the calls and the land was sold and the proceeds divided between the siblings. She was allowed to live rent-free for over two years, and now the new owners of the property have requested that she vacate. Everything was done legal and proper, and she signed the paperwork. The plan was that she was going to live with her daughter, but now she refuses to leave. She has brought elder abuse charges against the son and daughter, this is actually the second case, the first one was unfounded. She stopped talking to us in December of 2023. Before this my husband would talk to her twice a day, every day. We were there every weekend, doing laundry, cleaning, grocery shopping and such. She has not talked to us since December of 2023 so we stopped trying. Now we don't want to for fear of what she will say next. How do we handle this? Do we need to hire an attorney? We do not have any POV over her.

Its a shame that people aren't aware how Medicaid works. When your MIL sold her property, the proceeds should have gone to her for her future care. She draws up a Will so anything she does not spend goes to her children.

Sounds like she now may suffer from Dementia. I so hope she does not need Longterm care in the next 5 years. Because giving her children the proceeds means she cannot get Medicaid help. Someone will have to pay for her care privately or do the caring themselves.

Well the owners can evict her. So then she needs somewhere to go. Her suing you is a different problem. I so hope Mom signed off on those papers and a lawyer was present. It was unfounded before so hopefully will be now.

Just curious, why did Mom not move when the property was sold? Did she have an agreement with the buyer?
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Yes, you will need an attorney when/if she files charges against you.
Until she does file charges there ARE no charges and you do not need an attorney.

Hopefully it was your mother who sold the home and signed the papers and gave you the money, and hopefully she was fully in her right mind at the time she did this.
If this was done through a realtor the realtor/banker then they would be involved in any suits as well I would think.

We here on the Forum cannot know the details, but this was very poor decision making. Why in the world would a son and daughter accept for themselves the assets of a still living mother who may in future need them for herself and her own care. I cannot conceive of such a thing.

Be ready to hire a criminal attorney when/if charges are filed.
Meanwhile you may wish to take the details of all of this to a criminal attorney.
And the last thing in the WORLD you should now do is attempt to get a POA for your mother. That would really make you look like criminals.

Question for you. Now that your mother has no home and has given YOU her assets, just what do you expect to become of her when she is evicted (and she will be) from what she believes to be her home?

You have taken her money. I believe you are obligated for her life care.
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Yes, like yesterday. Doing what she did could put you in a very bad position IF she should need Medicaid in a total of 5 years and the sale of the house and distribution of the funds will keep her from being approved, she will have to be self paid.

All of this has made for a real mess that must be addressed.
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