I take care of my Mother who is 96. She's in fairly good health physically. She can walk, dress , potty (mostly) . But she requires oxygen 24/7 and takes it off alot. ALOTTTTTT. Last night I ran in there for the second time and it was on the floor and her O2 sat was in the 60s . Thats the lowest I've ever seen it. At least it goes up fast. The thing is I am soo burned out. It is a constant battle to not let my standards fall and I know they already have to some extend. I'm tired (part physically, mental , part depression). I took care of her thru stage one cancer ( my sister took her the week right after treatment thank god) and shingles. But this feels the worse it's ever been ...and I have help 3 days a week for approx 6 hours each. I'm tired , tired , tired and I worry that I'm not as focused as I should be or to b*tchy .. ok i worry worry worry. Anyone else? Is this the secret "caregiver" reality?
Her daughter would move it back into place which would annoy MIL. Finally MIL said in exasperation. “If I die, I die.” Which she did a couple of days later.
Does she have any cognitive impairment that might prevent her from understanding why she needs this supplemental oxygen, and the consequences of not using it?
Is there any other way for your mother to be cared for? It doesn't sound like you have a lot of years left in you at the rate you've been going.