My aunt is a quiet, shy type person who does not like activities - she is and always has been low maintenance. She is kind and gentle.
My mom is very outgoing and has a controlling personality and I think she is picking my aunt's 'home' based on what she wants. The one she has picked for my aunt will wipe her out financially within 1 year.
Should I keep peace with my mom or be more assertive?
Let it rip without being crude, crass, and obscene. Mom doesn't always know best. Good luck.
-- Ed
If Aunt's money will only cover one year at the expensive place, it is not likely to cover for the rest of her life at other places, either (unless she is 98), thought it may cover longer. So I think Lynn has a good point. This is the time to find out what the places you are looking at do when the money runs out. Some will continue with the resident and accept Medicaid in payment. Some will not. This is worth knowing upfront.
Good luck to you. Your aunt must have had a lot of faith in you to appoint you her decision-maker. I'm sure you will live up to that.