I am bi-polar w/ chronic depression. Because of covid 19 no places are taking "new residents". We are in the purple zone & my dad only has enough $ for Feb rent then he is homeless. Family could care less. I just can't handle anymore of the everyday growing needs of him. I just can't do it all alone. My life is spiriling into deep dark depression & thoughts of self harm which is not good. I don't want to see him in the streets - I can't! He can't live w/ me, not allowed. He too is a very depressed person who recently lost EVERYTHING at 78yrs In the CARR FIRE IN NO CA. I'm all he has but 2 extremely depressed people don't make for good choices or decesion making. I mean mixing bi- polar w/ high anxiety & chronic depression with dementia & extreme depression don't do well together even though I have done my very best & tried my hardest I'm out of solutions. I need help so bad on so many levels. please.? Merry Christmas -to all
Apparently APS was, according to Geaton below, involved already in part with your Dad. Please don't speak with people about your father or agree to take on his care in any way. The system cannot and will not cast an elder into the streets. There is no eviction happening in the US currently due to covid. Do not agree under any circumstances to take your Father into your home. You are not mentally able to take on his care at this time, perhaps at any time.
The system may have to take guardianship of your father. The Independent Living will be able to contact social services to arrange for placement of your father in care. Tell them when/if they call you to contact APS for your father. Do know that if he has an "inheritance" as was stated in prior posts, a guardianship by State, temporary or permanent will have a right to access his assets for his care.
As you can imagine, many seniors do not have children. The system steps in. Right now your Dad does have a child, but one whose own life precludes her being able to help him. Seek help for yourself now. I am so sorry you are facing all of this at once.
As Geaton777 said, unfortunately your dad did not plan well for his elder years. His lack of planning should not make an emergency in your world. Do what you can, while taking care of yourself too.
Are you in touch with APS? Does your area have some kind of legal services for elders? He and/or you could definitely benefit from some assistance.
If you are unable to handle this, which is perfectly legitimate, let APS or whoever is "in charge" of his situation/case, what your problems and limitations are. Someone is going to have to make some decisions, but it does not HAVE to be you. Of course, you want to help him, but do not get into the thinking that you HAVE to do everything you can for him. That is just not true and could be putting way too much pressure on yourself.