He was in a car accident a little over a month ago. On Sept 1, I took him to ER because all of the sudden he cant walk. He is now in my home, behaving as the most ungrateful person on earth. My hubs and I are at are wits end with him. Trying to get things moving forward with the VA is a nightmare. Any suggestions?
In my opinion besides shortterm memory loss they lose the ability to reason early on. It takes them longer to process what is being said. Once when Mom was in the hospital I requested that no doctors or nurses discuss her care with her because she would not understand them. I walked into her room to find 2 student nurses explaining her care as my Mom looked on with that blind look on her face. I told them she has no idea what your telling her. They can no longer comprehend.
You could try setting boundries. Depends how far he is in the Dementia. Just because he is husbands father doesn't mean he should be allowed to be ungrateful. It is your home. Another problem is people suffering from Dementia get self-centered and can show no empathy.
Hopefully you can get the VA thing moving and be able to place him in one of their homes. Because this will get worse.