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There is help. If FIL is low income you can get Medicaid to help with homecare. Aides to help bath him. Mediicaid will also pay for partial or full Daycare. Both will give you time to yourself. When u mean "off working" do you mean ur husband is working for days away from home?
You need to realize that with the Dementia's the person first loses shortterm memory and then the longterm seems to go back in time. In his mind you may be a child he feels he needs to take care of. You don't need to allow him to control you. Don't engage him in an argument, they cannot be reasoned with. Reasoning is the first thing to go. Just agree and walk away. If he hits you or gets violent call the police. He will be taken to a Psychic facility for observation and trying to find the right medication to control the violent tendency. If FIL is to the point he cannot be left alone, then it maybe time for a NH. If he has no money other than SS, you can apply for Medicaid. ALZ patient can live for years. There will come a time that you will have to do everything for him. Are you willing to toilet your FIL? Personally, I wouldn't do it for any man but my husband. And then, only because of the relationship we have.
You and husband need to have some alone time and discuss this situation and how you can handle it.
Dwyla, are you caring for your husband’s father by yourself? You have no one else to help you? Is he living in your house with you? What was the reason you agreed to care for your husband’s father if you knew he has Alzheimer’s, your husband wouldn’t be helping and you’d be doing this alone? Do you know Alzheimer’s only gets worse? Or, is this happening when you visit your father in law? Your profile is blank so it’s hard to know what to say to you.
Now do you mean your father in law is using childish words to you or is he talking to you like you were a child? How long has it been since he was to the doctor’s? Is he on any medication for the Alzheimer’s?
Talk in an honest way with your husband and tell him this is too much for you to do if you are caregiving for his father. Tell him if he doesn’t want to put his father in a nursing home, he has to pitch in and also get you some help. Don’t give up until your husband understands that this is not a choice. He HAS to do something for you.
I don't have any help from his 5 boys and they just are afraid of him that is the way they were raised and his wife is bed Reed and where's diapers and I was supposed to move in and help out him
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
You need to realize that with the Dementia's the person first loses shortterm memory and then the longterm seems to go back in time. In his mind you may be a child he feels he needs to take care of. You don't need to allow him to control you. Don't engage him in an argument, they cannot be reasoned with. Reasoning is the first thing to go. Just agree and walk away. If he hits you or gets violent call the police. He will be taken to a Psychic facility for observation and trying to find the right medication to control the violent tendency. If FIL is to the point he cannot be left alone, then it maybe time for a NH. If he has no money other than SS, you can apply for Medicaid. ALZ patient can live for years. There will come a time that you will have to do everything for him. Are you willing to toilet your FIL? Personally, I wouldn't do it for any man but my husband. And then, only because of the relationship we have.
You and husband need to have some alone time and discuss this situation and how you can handle it.
Now do you mean your father in law is using childish words to you or is he talking to you like you were a child? How long has it been since he was to the doctor’s? Is he on any medication for the Alzheimer’s?
Talk in an honest way with your husband and tell him this is too much for you to do if you are caregiving for his father. Tell him if he doesn’t want to put his father in a nursing home, he has to pitch in and also get you some help. Don’t give up until your husband understands that this is not a choice. He HAS to do something for you.