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When I 1st moved into this 55+ a yr ago, I was very happy. Great building. For about a week. I was invited to a coffee and in the building and people were nice, connected, light convo. About a week later I was getting waved off, scoffed at at and the stick eye. The only thing I can think of was a woman down the street thro an absolute tantrum, bc she thought the apartment should be hers. So I've spent the year staying away from common areas, which the 'mean girls' seem to have taken over. I don’t go to activities, breakfast, movies, or anything g and try to keep to myself. I also don't see the social worker bc her office is adjacent and there is no privacy. Recently I feel the homemaker, there is one for the whole building. She asks odd random questions-like am I mix race. She also has come and gone in 15 mins, and w/o details, I felt a lot like she just stopped by to see/gather, and her body language communicated this as well. It's just very hostile and I can't imagine being able to explain this to management w/o sounding crazy. It's just so hostile ALL the time. What would you do? My options are limited by budget.

You can move, or you can recognize that you are as worthya person as they are and just go about your business as you like in what is now YOUR home that you are paying for. Invite some of your friends (from before you moved in) over. Live your life as you planned. If someone says something rude to you, laugh and say, "Really? Seriously?" to show that you are not bothered by it. Because you shouldn't be! You deserve better than being a self-imposed shut-in due to a few people's self-important silly behavior.
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If there is one person in the building who seems friendly, I suggest that you start there. Find a way to connect with that person. Invite her for coffee ☕️. She likely has a friend. Invite her and that friend next time—and so on. This all takes time. Months. Years, even.

The idea is to build your own social circle. It can be done, You will have to persist. It’s worth it, though.
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There is no reason not to discuss this with social worker and administration. Simply call the number provided for her and ask to visit with her in some private meeting room. No one could conceivably know WHAT in the world you are speaking to her about.

It is hard for me to believe that ALL people here are against you. Truly, it is. That would be very unusual.
And it might be great fun--would be for me, anyway--to simply go about annoying them all. Go to the common area and say "Myra, your hair is so wonderful. Mine is so thin; I envy you" or "Alma, that's the best color on you. You look like a million bucks today". Or "Joyce, I saw the picture you did in art class. Oh how I wish I could draw like that". Just butter those old hens up like basted turkeys at Thanksgiving.

To be honest, my brother used to get a "kick" out of some of the old gals at his place. He said he might have missed the communes of his day, but he got it in old age, because none of them could get along for two seconds. This one wanted the shades in common room DOWN and that one wanted them UP. Said that basically they just sat about in the Gazebo discussing their ills and watching the ambulances and hearses come and go. He used to be tickled by them. So just sit about and be a "watcher". It will annoy Hades out of them!
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Well the way I see it you have 2 choices. The first is to look for another place to live(which you'll always have mean girls wherever you go) or you just hold your head high and get on with living and enjoying what your complex has to offer, and ignore the haters.
Don't let these ignorant folks get the better of you. Surely there has to be several folks there that you would get along great with, but you'll never know as long as you stay locked in your apartment.
So get out there and start making friends.
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I would go to any active, breakfast, movie or whatever and enjoy myself. When we let these types of people run us off, they win.

If someone is openly hostile, either ignore them or tell them you pay for ALL the facilities amenities and if you being around bothers them, maybe they should find something else to do.

I would report the housekeeper for asking such a slanted question, regardless of what else is going on, she swerved way out of her lane. Make her accountable to her employer. (That is only if it wasn't an honest question, in context to the conversation. )

You can stand strong in the face of these cats.
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I would ask the SW to come to your apartment because you feel there is no privacy where her office is. Is the housekeeper there to clean your apartment? 15 min does not seem long enough to me unless just making the bed. And she seems a little forward to be asking you if your of mixed race.

Is this a group of people or everyone in the complex? Hopefully the SW can find out what the problem is.
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What you have been doing, Stay to yourself? Say hello if you feel like it and go on about your business.
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Even In junior high, we learn some girls will be mean. Not everyone will want you in their group so you have to find peers that do.
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