We are trying to seek guardianship for my 94 year old uncle with dementia. My aunt passed away in July and took care of everything. They never had children.
The VA refuses to give us any information because there is no medical POA. My aunt had POA.
We have hired an attorney and they will not even respond to him.
Now we have adult family services on our tail because he has been brought home a couple times by the police because of disorientation.
Right now our hands are tied. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
Have your attorney file the petition as soon as possible, because courts are moving slowly due to COVID. It could be weeks between when it's filed and your hearing actually happens. Good luck to you! Start researching long term care options before you get the guardianship, so you'll be ready to act when you're legally able to. Expect every process to take twice as long as you anticipated, whether setting up the guardianship bank account or getting the VA to work with you. Get to know the closest notaries and places to fax documents, because you will use them many times. Unfortunately, those guardianship court papers are no magic bullet. People will still give you the run-around even after winning guardianship, but it does open doors, if just a crack.
How close are you to this Uncle? If not close, you may want to let the State take over. Tell Adult family services that you cannot be responsible for your Uncle. That you have no POA and guardianship is too expensive for you. It can cost a lot, some places as much as 10k or more. It may be able to come out of Uncles's money if you win.
The process of getting Guardianship will be going to court, the Judge will listen to the facts and if no one else wants to assume Guardianship you will not have a problem. A letter will be sent to all relatives that he has and it will give them a time to respond by and let theem know of the court date. If anyone wants Guardianship they can appear.
Once the Guardianship has been granted you will have all legal rights to care for him and make decisions for him based on his best interest.
(The VA or doctors will not be able to respond to the attorney due to HIPAA regualtion until you have a right to be informed of personal information due to the privacy)