I seriously messed up!! My mom has had parkingsons for 17 years. I had her living beside me for the last 5 years and with a hired caregiver a few hours a week we were managing. Then my mom started falling all the time and got sick. She ended up in the hospital and they sent her to a nursing home. At my mom’s request she wanted out of the nursing home so I place her into an assisted living facility. Huge mistake!!! We will not be able to afford the assisted living facility more than a few months and now the path to a nursing home seems out of reach. I’ve called a few with no such luck. She doesn’t currently qualify for Medicaid but should in the next several months. I am so upset and do not know what she do. She cannot live alone!!! Any advice?
You will more likely get Mom into LTC if you pay privately and go into Medicaid. Just make sure the facility takes Medicaid.
Also, AL is not going to solve her falling issue. Falling at home and facilities is very problematic because when the person has the ability to keep getting up and out of a chair or bed and *thinks* they have full mobility, they will just keep falling since facilities are extremely reluctant to use approved restraints on residents because it's just too full of liability and lawsuit issues.
Please do not contribute to paying for her care -- it is unsustainable and will just drain your savings for when *you* need your own care.
The question is ...does the facility where she is now have the ability to keep her or is her care beyond what they can manage? Do they accept Medicaid?
If the facility where she is now can manage her care long term talk to them now about Medicaid application.
I am tempted to go up there and bring my husband and tell them that they need to tear that up because we will not be financially responsible. My own mother needs to be the one that is responsible. I thought if I take my husband perhaps he can say that I signed the papers without his knowledge