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ChistinaW as for sleep I get naps when I can. I never have slept very well even as a child. I live on a ranch and I do walk alot, I love animals and the great outdoors. After years of taking care of my parent I felt like a shell. I could never to enough. I was helping the very man who messed up my childhood. After he dies (3 yrs ago) I thought I would be set free. Then Mom moved in with us. she was here for 3yrs and 4 months. I spoiled her. I was like her puppied. then one day I overheard her telling my x-sister in law that she is stuck here, that we don't do anything for her, that we leave her alone all of the time. I did not respond to here but that hurt to deep that I cries inside for days. The I told her that I was taking her to Respite care which was true. I needed a time out before I hurt myself. She liked the Assisted living and began to make friends. so for now I have left her there...since 16Jan2013. She has asked when am I coming back to your house. I reply when I can make you as happy as you are here. No more negative calls from my sibblings..I don't answer the phone. I am begining to Like Myself Again. I Am A Good Person..That is was I tell myself every morning
Respite workers are used to all this. Give yourself a break. As someone told me, nobody in a nursing home is doing 24/7 shifts... what makes you think you can?
I can't speak for everyone else, but I know I am co-dependent. That means I care for others, am an empath, "love" everyone but me... I come last. And then I harbor resentments and anger at myself for doing so much with so little return. I have to learn to care for myself first... as the stewardess says, put the mask on yourself before your kids... because if I can't learn to care for me, and put my needs first, I really am no good depressed and resentful, stuck and depressed, to anyone else, much less as a caregiver to someone who needs me to be on top of my game...
i can sure relate. when a normal rational mind tries to analyze the actions of a mentally disturbed person its not uncommon to see the rational brain sink into a slo-mo mode ( depression ) just to protect itself from the absurdity. i see now that you didnt specify mental illness so maybe my post wont help you. here goes anyway. try to avoid the tendacy to rationalize with the patient. they just sit there and get stupider and your mind shorts out. there are no winners . even physical sickness causes irrational thinking and behavior in the patient. you simply have to learn to walk away when s**t gets too silly. an hour later you fall for the same trick determined to reach an understanding. it aint gonna happen theyre friggin NUTS..
lol. im not very smart but i speak concisely.. the key word was NUTS... theyre friggin NUTS... obsessive, repetitive, missing the whole point NUTS..livin in the past, creatures of dubious habit - NUTS.. its not you whos NUTS its the patient.
I'm 24/7 with my Dad. I just know his likes, his eating manners. If I leave him with my sister he won't eat the same. He has problems swallowing even though it's puree or water. I have to tell him to swallow each time he gets a spoon of food. It takes about an hour to feed him. Medication was another issue. Now I break down his pills and mix them with baby food dessert. That way he eats it and doesn't know he had them. After a month in a sleeping all the time, because of medication he is now more responsive. More time awake. Hospice has given me a hand. I give thanks to God for that.
Cap, you are brilliant. You are just this side of genius, because sometimes genius goes NUTS, and you will not. 131313: do you get any sleep? what is the story of your day? SLEEP WATER EXERCISE LAUGHTER BREAKS SLEEP WATER EXERCISE, etc. Tell us...xo
Until you can find someone to help or develop a reliable support system to share the responsibilities, delete the word "relax" from your vocabulary. If someone mentions the word to you, respond with " 'Relax'? What's that?"
Of course you'll never be Rita Rudner, but injecting some comedy -- even if it hurts -- will get you to laugh (and maybe cry at the same time) for a couple of minutes.
Another suggestion is to avoid commiserating with the femme fatales in those tear-jerking movies that remind you of everything you've been missing. Same with the sappy soap operas, particularly the Spanish ones. They just amplify the inescapable misery you're going through.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
131313: do you get any sleep? what is the story of your day?
SLEEP WATER EXERCISE LAUGHTER BREAKS SLEEP WATER EXERCISE,
etc. Tell us...xo
Of course you'll never be Rita Rudner, but injecting some comedy -- even if it hurts -- will get you to laugh (and maybe cry at the same time) for a couple of minutes.
Another suggestion is to avoid commiserating with the femme fatales in those tear-jerking movies that remind you of everything you've been missing. Same with the sappy soap operas, particularly the Spanish ones. They just amplify the inescapable misery you're going through.
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