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I just read your profile and with all your parents issues it may be best to suggest the pros of living in an assisted living facility where they will be around folks their own age and have everything taken care of for them, so they can just enjoy whatever time they may have left. And if they're not open to that, then they'll have to hire(with their own money)full-time in-home help. As far as approaching the subject honesty is always best. You just tell them that you know that they're slowing down and having more issues and that you want to make sure that they're receiving the best care possible whether it be in a facility or at home. And I would go prepared with lots of information on assisted living facilities in their area and even take them to start on some virtual tours of them until they can check them out in person. Best wishes.
You can suggest a companion aid that mostly would drive them around. While an aid is out taking them shopping or whatever, a housecleaner can come in to help do the tasks that they'd like to hand over (eg: for me it would definitely be cleaning the walk-in shower).
Many seniors dislike the thought of "strangers" in their home. So, it will be important to find someone with the right chemistry for them (and hopefully experienced).
For my very elderly Aunts who lived out of state, I first had an "informational" phone conversation to let them know what the options are. I asked them if they could avoid doing 1 or 2 tasks, what would it be. At the end of that conversation she told me she "wasn't ready" for outside help. I didn't push it and just left it at, "When you're ready I'll be happy to set everything up for you." A few months later she called me back asking to set up help.
So, hopefully your first conversation will have a productive outcome. But if it doesn't, just assure them that there will be help available whenever they are ready. They may have concerns about cost, and coordinating it. They may need to overcome a mental/emotional hurdle, and pride. If you get pushy and insistant, it may cause resistance. Elders need time to adjust.
Then for yourself, realize that aging-in-place in their home may not be a thing that can happen. But it's ok to try in-home care first.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And if they're not open to that, then they'll have to hire(with their own money)full-time in-home help.
As far as approaching the subject honesty is always best. You just tell them that you know that they're slowing down and having more issues and that you want to make sure that they're receiving the best care possible whether it be in a facility or at home.
And I would go prepared with lots of information on assisted living facilities in their area and even take them to start on some virtual tours of them until they can check them out in person.
Best wishes.
You can suggest a companion aid that mostly would drive them around. While an aid is out taking them shopping or whatever, a housecleaner can come in to help do the tasks that they'd like to hand over (eg: for me it would definitely be cleaning the walk-in shower).
Many seniors dislike the thought of "strangers" in their home. So, it will be important to find someone with the right chemistry for them (and hopefully experienced).
For my very elderly Aunts who lived out of state, I first had an "informational" phone conversation to let them know what the options are. I asked them if they could avoid doing 1 or 2 tasks, what would it be. At the end of that conversation she told me she "wasn't ready" for outside help. I didn't push it and just left it at, "When you're ready I'll be happy to set everything up for you." A few months later she called me back asking to set up help.
So, hopefully your first conversation will have a productive outcome. But if it doesn't, just assure them that there will be help available whenever they are ready. They may have concerns about cost, and coordinating it. They may need to overcome a mental/emotional hurdle, and pride. If you get pushy and insistant, it may cause resistance. Elders need time to adjust.
Then for yourself, realize that aging-in-place in their home may not be a thing that can happen. But it's ok to try in-home care first.
I wish you success in helping them.