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You can suggest a companion aid that mostly would drive them around. While an aid is out taking them shopping or whatever, a housecleaner can come in to help do the tasks that they'd like to hand over (eg: for me it would definitely be cleaning the walk-in shower).

Many seniors dislike the thought of "strangers" in their home. So, it will be important to find someone with the right chemistry for them (and hopefully experienced).

For my very elderly Aunts who lived out of state, I first had an "informational" phone conversation to let them know what the options are. I asked them if they could avoid doing 1 or 2 tasks, what would it be. At the end of that conversation she told me she "wasn't ready" for outside help. I didn't push it and just left it at, "When you're ready I'll be happy to set everything up for you." A few months later she called me back asking to set up help.

So, hopefully your first conversation will have a productive outcome. But if it doesn't, just assure them that there will be help available whenever they are ready. They may have concerns about cost, and coordinating it. They may need to overcome a mental/emotional hurdle, and pride. If you get pushy and insistant, it may cause resistance. Elders need time to adjust.

Then for yourself, realize that aging-in-place in their home may not be a thing that can happen. But it's ok to try in-home care first.

I wish you success in helping them.
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I just read your profile and with all your parents issues it may be best to suggest the pros of living in an assisted living facility where they will be around folks their own age and have everything taken care of for them, so they can just enjoy whatever time they may have left.
And if they're not open to that, then they'll have to hire(with their own money)full-time in-home help.
As far as approaching the subject honesty is always best. You just tell them that you know that they're slowing down and having more issues and that you want to make sure that they're receiving the best care possible whether it be in a facility or at home.
And I would go prepared with lots of information on assisted living facilities in their area and even take them to start on some virtual tours of them until they can check them out in person.
Best wishes.
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