She has always been narcissistic, but the moods are getting uncontrollable. One minute she will be civil, I turn around, she's screaming that no one helps her, her granddaughter steals jewelry, tells me (I am a 55 year old Accountant, her sole caregiver) that I am "retarded." It gets uglier everyday. My neighbors think she is a sweet southern belle, she's always been an actress. Her doctors won't give her anxiety meds because she only behaves like this around me. It's to the point where I am afraid to interact with her at all. My other relatives just stay away from her. Ideas?
SO, one day, I had enough of his dishonoring of the reality that I was describing. I awoke to the fact that Mom had to be evaluated by a doctor who 1) didn't think he 'knew her' so well, and 2) who dealt specifically with memory issues.
I had a facility already in mind and was able to take her to the doctor connected to that facility for an evaluation. A week later, Mom was able to move into the facility as that specialist diagnosed her with vascular dementia and mid to advanced Alzheimer. Funny, he said to me and my husband that had we waited longer, he would have had to reserve 3 beds instead of one!
He was right! Had I not taken that step, I would have been bald from pulling out my hair constantly from stress!