Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
"They are out playing in the neighborhood. They are having fun. The other mothers are watching out for them. They will come home when the cows come home."
THEN YOU ASK A DIVERSION QUESTION. Make sure it is opened ended, not yes or no.
Mom, what do you want to do tomorrow? Mom, what do you want to have for dinner tomorrow? etc. Mom, Easter is coming, what do we do at Easter time?
My mum had vascular dementia and her good and bad days were up and down until her final month. Amazingly, her intelligence remained for most of the time, even when she was sundowning. A repeated worry - and it was a worry loop, not just repeating phrases - was where my daughter, her granddaughter, was. She would ask why isn't she home or fret about how she was getting home. She even berated me for visiting after dark when I should be home taking care of my little girl. I mostly told her the truth, in a calm and gentle manner, that my daughter was home looking after her own children. Then I'd show pictures of my grandchildren, and she would usually be satisfied and calm again. If that didn't work, I'd say that her granddaughter was staying at a friend's house, having a fun sleepover. It would often surprise me, as we could have been watching Eggheads or The Chase with Mum winning - again - and then she'd notice it's dark and start fretting.
I agree that meds may help. Also on the next visit I would bring her either a baby doll or stuffed animal. It doesn't matter if it's realistic looking or not. My 100-yr old Aunt cuddled a rainbow-colored Llama she called "Baby" and treated it as such. Taking care of something gives them a sense of purpose and acts as a distraction.
Calming meds are required when an elder is stuck in a loop thinking pattern such as this. My mother would often ask where the babies were, which made no sense. They get fixated on children and babies sometimes, as they regress in time back to when they were young mothers. This is why having baby dolls to care for often work well for dementia sufferers.
Like Alva said, make up a story about where the little boys are, and change it up as needed.
It won't matter WHAT you say, because reality isn't registering at all. So make up anything. I would likely come up with "Oh, you know the boys. They are having FUN and likely lost all track of time; don't worry. They'll be here."
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
"The little boys went on a camping trip. They are having fun."
Then ask diversion question (open ended question)
Easter is coming. What do you want to do for easter?
THEN YOU ASK A DIVERSION QUESTION. Make sure it is opened ended, not yes or no.
Mom, what do you want to do tomorrow?
Mom, what do you want to have for dinner tomorrow? etc.
Mom, Easter is coming, what do we do at Easter time?
This should stop the loop.
A repeated worry - and it was a worry loop, not just repeating phrases - was where my daughter, her granddaughter, was. She would ask why isn't she home or fret about how she was getting home. She even berated me for visiting after dark when I should be home taking care of my little girl.
I mostly told her the truth, in a calm and gentle manner, that my daughter was home looking after her own children. Then I'd show pictures of my grandchildren, and she would usually be satisfied and calm again.
If that didn't work, I'd say that her granddaughter was staying at a friend's house, having a fun sleepover.
It would often surprise me, as we could have been watching Eggheads or The Chase with Mum winning - again - and then she'd notice it's dark and start fretting.
Like Alva said, make up a story about where the little boys are, and change it up as needed.
Best of luck.
I would likely come up with "Oh, you know the boys. They are having FUN and likely lost all track of time; don't worry. They'll be here."