My mother in law who has dementia lives with us. She wanders all over the place and put things anywhere even trash so I find myself following her so I won’t have rats. She’s nasty. She hates to take a bath and it’s a constant battle but we don’t want her to stink. She’s mean and gets mad when we try to help and I mean we have to help her even to dress. She talks out her head and is very wobbly. We feel she needs more than us, she needs professionals. We have been trying to get her in a facility but with her Medicare she has limited options. We are working on Medicaid and we have a hospice nurse and doctor coming in to see her when they will come. The whole ordeal is slower than Christmas. Some people get all the help and when we need it it seems to not happen.
Nursing facilities also have social workers that can help you and assist you with the Medicaid process as well as finding her placement, and will tell you that your MIL can be placed prior to her pending approval with Medicaid.
And of course you can have your MIL brought to the ER, and then tell them that she cannot return home as she is just too much for you both. They will then HAVE TO find placement for her.
So these are some options to consider. Hang in there. there is light at the end of the tunnel. God bless you.
Sometimes the best bet is to bring the elder to the ER because that will speed things up and they will find her permanent placement.
The hospital will admit her and keep her there until they find a care facility that can accept her.
This way will certainly speed things up considerably. Many people have to do it this way with their elders. It's hard on a family because they often feel like they're abandoning their 'loved one'. You're not. Sometimes it's the only way to get the placement someone needs. Good luck to you and I hope you can get your MIL placed soon.
Why do you find the need of hospice. Does MILs PCP think she only has 6 months to live. Have you tried any meds to calm MIL down.