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He is making my life miserable. I went to his dr, spoke to someone in the hospital about things he does and says, was told there was nothing they could do. He needs to get out of my home. He had surgery last year, he can take care of himself. He is 82, has Medicare and only has social security money! He pays me rent but he needs to go! Please help!

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Can you get reasonable Care at home to give you a break until you can find a better situation check with his insurance and see what's covered under places to place him also if you have a Senior Helpers in your area we do tons of dishes laundry we're pretty much caregivers but we don't clean up the clients they have to be able to do a lot for themselves so I don't know your dad's situation but they're also our other places that would help with that situation if you did need someone to clean him up and feed him and such
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"I went to his dr, spoke to someone in the hospital about things he does and says, was told there was nothing they could do."

What is he saying and doing that lead you to talk to his doctor? FYI if you aren't your Dad's MPoA or MR (Medical Representative) that doctor should not have told you anything about your Dad. Or, maybe this is what is meant by "...nothing they could do" because your Dad doesn't see his own problem.

Does he have a diagnosis of dementia?

It's too bad when his wife kicked him out no one told him he had every right to stay living there since that was his legal residence... unless it wasn't.

I would contact social services to see if he can go into an AL on an Elder Waiver through Medicaid.
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Tell him he needs to leave. Apply for low-income senior housing, as JoAnn said. There is probably a waiting list, so in the meantime help him find a room in a house if that's all he can afford. Or a shared apartment with roommates. Some airbnb owners love long-term renters because they don't have to do the work of changing over the unit all the time, so will offer a discount for a long-term tenant.

Has he gone through the divorce process with his wife, so their financial assets are settled? If he still owns a house with her, or is still on their lease, he can go back there and the two of them can work it out as they would have if he didn't have you to fall back ond, as waytomisery suggested.

If he refuses to cooperate, tell him he has two weeks, or a month. Then have a locksmith change the locks, change the password/entry code, whatever gives you access to your home, and put his things out on the porch or front yard.

You DO NOT have to live in misery like this.
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JanPeck123 Apr 6, 2025
Legally the Dad is considered a renter and is afforded all the rights of a tenant. Daughter needs to treat him as a month to month tenant, and give him the required written notice to vacate. She should look up the laws for landlords in her town in Georgia. But she cannot just toss him out one day and change the locks.
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What do you need help with? Send dad on his way. Help him find a new place or a room to rent outside of your home.
Good luck.
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Does he own a house with his wife ?
If so, send him back .
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Tell him this isn't working out and he needs his own place.
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HUD has senior apartments. They require 30% of their monthly income for rent. All Dad would paybover that is phone, electric and TV.

The phone could be a Tracfone. They have cheap models. Pay for a year and he is good. Electric may be a set rate, if not can get help there. TV just have him use an antenna. Food stamps for groceries. Food banks. His clothes, Christmas and Birthday presents. If he goes to the hospital again, refuse to take him home. Tell tge Social Worker you will no longer care for him and the State can take over.

If Dad has Dementia then he is 24/7 care. You could place him in Long-term care with Medicaid paying. No Dementia, don't put up with his s**t. Tell him he is lucky he has a roof over his head and food. Your home your rules. He needs you more than you need him and needs to appreciate what you are doing for him,
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What does he say when you tell him that he needs to find his own housing now?
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