I haven’t seen them in six months when they literally blew up on me and my husband (ironically, the ones that do everything for them). I went to therapy and got a great deal of support and advice from you all. Mom is now in the hospital after suffering a pretty bad fall. Dad is definitely suffering from dementia. I am concerned about both of their care if I can’t step in. Thank you again!
If you wish to prove one or both of your parents INCOMPETENT legally that is an action you need to take to enforce your POA, and it will require whatever is written in your POA to do. Usually the stipulation is the agreement of two MDs (one almost always a Neuro-Psyc specialist) that your parents are no longer competent to make their own legal and financial choices, and require their POA to act for them. At that point your POA cannot be withdrawn by your parents.
This hospitalization is an excellent time to at once request a Social Worker and discuss your parents and your current situation.
Good luck.
You know Mom should not be released to home if she is going to need any care. This may be time to discuss assisted living with Mom.
Hope it works out for your POA.
If your parents are deemed mentally competent by their doctors, then they can choose to revoke your POAs. I would probably talk to their doctors before your parents try this maneuver.
If they have previously assigned you as their healthcare proxy and POA, that means they trusted you would have their best interests at heart.
I'm curious - why do you think they will revoke it?
If they have reason, then it might be time for more therapy and soul-searching.