Follow
Share

My mom lives 6 hours away from me. She had a stroke in January 2024 and I was able to get her a companion thru Medicaid 3 days a week. From the stroke has developed aphasia and cognitive impairment. My concern is I am in stage 3 liver failure and in need of a liver transplant.
If my health continues to decline I won’t be able to make any decisions for myself or her. My husband has durable power of attorney over me. Her sister and brother are not able to help her. Will the state appoint a guardian?

Your husband can make decisions for you. Is that OK with you?

Does your M need decisions to be made for her? Sometimes people’s situation is so simple that they don’t really need a POA. M’s situation might be more like this in a Medicaid facility rather than with companion care in her own house. It may not be what would be preferred, but sometimes the only option is not ‘best’. You might be able to set this up before your transplant operation.

If M needs a POA, it sounds as though your DH is the only option. Depending on the level of her cognitive impairment, it might be possible to get a solicitor to set this up. Their ‘competence tests’ are less rigorous than a doctor’s.

If none of these options work, yes, it might need a state appointed guardian.

Very difficult situation, sympathy and best wishes, Margaret
Helpful Answer (0)
Reply to MargaretMcKen
Report
gladysrg9 3 hours ago
I am trying to arrange everything before my liver failure progresses further. My mom seems to be able to do all activities of daily living. The companion helps her pay her bills and takes her grocery shopping. My mom walks 7 miles a week. But my mom is starting to be verbally abusive and refusing the aide. She has locked the aide out a couple of times. Without the aide she can’t manage her affairs. I only have one family member in her area, a niece but they are not on speaking terms.

I am just overwhelmed. I am bedbound and may have to go into skilled nursing if my health doesn’t improve.

Thank you so much.
(0)
Report
You say that her sister and brother are there. They will report her to APS as a senior at risk and in need of care who has no family who can act in her behalf. Yes, the state would appoint a court appointed Fiduciary to manage her care.
Helpful Answer (1)
Reply to AlvaDeer
Report
gladysrg9 3 hours ago
Thank you for your insight. Both brother and sister live out of state. She only has one niece but they are not on speaking terms.
(0)
Report
See 2 more replies
Thank you for you. Responses
Helpful Answer (0)
Reply to gladysrg9
Report

Ask a Question
Subscribe to
Our Newsletter