My mom lives 6 hours away from me. She had a stroke in January 2024 and I was able to get her a companion thru Medicaid 3 days a week. From the stroke has developed aphasia and cognitive impairment. My concern is I am in stage 3 liver failure and in need of a liver transplant.
If my health continues to decline I won’t be able to make any decisions for myself or her. My husband has durable power of attorney over me. Her sister and brother are not able to help her. Will the state appoint a guardian?
Does your M need decisions to be made for her? Sometimes people’s situation is so simple that they don’t really need a POA. M’s situation might be more like this in a Medicaid facility rather than with companion care in her own house. It may not be what would be preferred, but sometimes the only option is not ‘best’. You might be able to set this up before your transplant operation.
If M needs a POA, it sounds as though your DH is the only option. Depending on the level of her cognitive impairment, it might be possible to get a solicitor to set this up. Their ‘competence tests’ are less rigorous than a doctor’s.
If none of these options work, yes, it might need a state appointed guardian.
Very difficult situation, sympathy and best wishes, Margaret
I am just overwhelmed. I am bedbound and may have to go into skilled nursing if my health doesn’t improve.
Thank you so much.