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My narcissistic mother lives on my property and I have had wavered between very low contact and no contact due to her abuse. She needs help both physically and mentally. She is on Medicaid and eligible for home aides but there are none available in our rural area. I’m not POA or guardian. So my question is, would calling APS offer any other resources that she is not already getting through her caseworker? Her caseworker says she is not yet eligible for assisted living. But my mother has reached absolute desperation with no caregiver and has threatened me in several ways. Just not sure if I should ignore it and hope the caseworker takes action or if I should notify APS.
(The living situation is complicated because we built her a cottage on our property and gave her a life estate, meaning she can stay there until she chooses to leave or dies. I got so angry at her last week that I told her I want her off our property. But I think my hands are tied at the moment. I have a call in to an attorney to find out what can be done.)

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I would call APS and ask THEM this question. This WILL come to a head. She will have an accident and there will be hospitalization, diagnosis, and likely placement for being unable to return home without are. I would NOT become POA or guardian. I would allow the state to take that on. Know that she is out of your hands at that point, but also out of your control; you cannot at that point make any decisions regarding her, her assets, her placement (when and where) or her treatment.

Best to you and wishing you the best of luck as well.
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